I Am Change...Because I've been Changed!!!

WTF Is Going On?

2011-01-13T09:47:00.000-08:00

By S-Dot for The S-Dot Files

This photo of an "Brrr" ice cream tattoo face disgraced, repeat felon Gucci Mane who was recently released from a mental institution needs no blog commentary. It speaks for itself. My only question is: WHAT THE F*CK IS GOING ON?

Clearly this sort of confusion is contagious...take a gander at this deranged specimen who sports a face filled with "Gucci" emblems. WHAT THE F*CK IS GOING ON?

The Gift of Liberation: Thank You HARRY T. MOORE

2010-12-25T05:52:00.000-08:00

By S-Dot for The S-Dot Files

Civil Rights Activist Harry Tyson Moore was murdered in a bombing on Christmas in 1951 in Titusville, Florida with his faithful wife Harriette V. Moore while asleep in their bedroom. The cowardly killers stole their gift of life 59 years ago. This was the 12th race-related bombing in the state that year. Moore pursued justice for the “Groveland Four” who were accused of raping a white woman in July of 1949. One of the accused was killed during the Madison County manhunt; another was killed while in the sheriff’s custody traveling along Highway 146, and a third was gravely injured as well.

Despite the harsh reality of the times, Harry T. Moore stood up for his people. Florida may have been a ‘tropical paradise” for some of unearned privilege, but for oppressed people it was filled with terror as racists routinely killed and maimed those simply trying to enjoy the gift of life. As racists distributed “coon cards” for the holidays depicting Blacks in demoralizing illustrations, Harry T. Moore continued to resist racial oppression. Many of these symbols of tyranny are considered collector’s items today and are prized memorabilia to those who hold onto their heritage of hatred against Black people.

The Honorable Harry T. Moore was born a native of Houston, Florida on November 18th 1905 and is today remembered with the Harry T. Moore Social Service Center. Located in Titusville, Florida the center provides outreach social services such as; housing rehabilitation, assisted-living for the disabled, family counseling and early learning services for the community and serves as a reminder for the sacrificial life of service and commitment to the liberation of oppressed people by Harry T. Moore.

He graduated from Florida Memorial College, taught in Cocoa, Florida and went on to become principal of the Titusville Colored School. A champion for change, Harry T. Moore launched the Brevard County chapter of the NAACP in 1934 to address the unfair wages and lynchings of Black people. 10 years later in 1944, he formed the Florida Progressive Voters League which enabled disenfranchised people to use the ballot to protest the horrible day-to-day conditions they faced in the racially divided South. A community organizer, his efforts led to him being fired in 1946, but he was not deterred. Moore continued his mission to improve the conditions of his people. In 1948, he was rewarded with the great accomplishment of helping the NAACP register 10,000 people in the state of Florida.

Poet Langston Hughes read verses composed to honor Moore at an NAACP event:

Florida means land of flowers
It was on a Christmas night
In the state named for the flowers
Men came bearing dynamite...
It could not be in Jesus’ name
Beneath the bedroom floor
On Christmas night the killers
Hid the bomb for Harry Moore.

The group Sweet Honey In The Rock immortalized Harry T. Moore with their song The Ballad of Harry Moore which has the infectious chorus “Freedom never dies.”

( ( ( sDOTtv ) ) ) now playing SWEET HONEY IN THE ROCK “The Ballade of Harry Moore”

Rest In Peace the Honorable Harry T. Moore and Faithful Harriette V. Moore – Black Love

Hit the Mute Button

2010-12-24T12:06:00.001-08:00

By S-Dot for The S-Dot Files

Is this the Do-Nothing Generation? Are today’s young people so dumb down that they’ve lost their will to fight against injustice? Perhaps all that time misspent playing video games, updating their status and trying to get their swag on has resulted in the most socio-politically disconnected generation ever…

As Sophia Stewart the Oracle who wrote The Matrix says, we must “reverse the polarity” on the liars who spread untruth. Speak truth to power. Do not remain a victim simply because you’ve been victimized. Once you learn of your affliction begin the process of healing by revealing your truth. Walk in that truth. Personify the whole truth and nothing but the truth.

A cipher is a circle consisting of 360 degrees. 3 + 6 = 9 which is the number of months from conception to birth through the chamber of creation (womb). This represents the circle of life. When someone takes on the name “Cipher” they are declaring that they are complete. They have been birthed and brought to fullness. They have raised themselves to ‘new life’.

The issue with DJ Cipha Sounds (aka Luis Diaz) is that he is a complete sellout to those who gave life to what he calls a career. He has used his “sound” platform to demean women who are the matrix of creation. To have someone whose name metaphysically represents the “womb of amplification” speak death against life givers is an unpardonable sins against the co-creators of what we call life. We cannot allow his utterances to go unanswered. He must be called into account for the damage that he has inflicted upon the gateways of young women by speaking death. This crime against our people cannot, will not go unchallenged. He must be dealt with in the most constructive manner so that we others might learn a productive principle. You cannot speak death against life-givers.

Cipha Sounds must be muted. His platform must be disconnected. He must be dismantled.

In the movie The Matrix the character Cipher betrays his comrades. He sells them out because he cannot face reality. Even though they’ve placed themselves in harm’s way to give him new and true life, he makes a deal with the machines to become a modern-day Judas. Why? He wants to be plugged back into The Matrix, which is an “alternate” reality. He wants to avoid the truth for fantasy.

Similarly, Cipha Sounds also wants us to swallow the “blue pill” of indifference. He thinks that he can pacify us with cleverly worded apologies to silence the cries of life-givers. Cipha thinks that we will forgive what is unforgiveable. We won’t.

Cipha Sounds has misused his frequency to amplify a death vibration. His negative words can possibly kill a generation. Everyday, he broadcasts misinformation from above on the airwaves into the impressionable minds of our precious young people who are below seeking guidance. Cipha has been assigned to convert them into dumb people.

Unthinkers. Robotic doers. Machines.

We must resist the machine makers. He is an agent that adds to the chorus of dissension against the Black family. His unfunny jokes add to the insanity that has taken a stranglehold on disenfranchised people of color. He is an agent of disinformation. We must not make light of this reality.

RBGz Up!!!

((( sDOTtv ))) President Obama Disses Cipha Sounds

WHAT CAN YOU DO?If you’re a concerned citizen raise your voice. Amplify your thoughts in the blogosphere. Create a webpage. Call your local representatives to get them involved. Update your Facebook status with links to Youtube clips about the ongoing efforts. Bring together people in your community to discuss strategies to inform others. Pick up the phone and talk to others. Text them updates. Send out email blasts. Record podcasts and tweet links to your social networks. Get the word out. Create flyers and bulletins to post in the lobby of your building and distribute at local gathering places (bus and train stations, malls, etc.)

LET’S PUT THE PRESSURE ON…Don’t be silenced. Do something. Get involved.

Community of Faith Shook by Sex Scandal

2010-10-02T08:37:00.000-07:00

By S-Dot for The S-Dot Files

BISHOP EDDIE L. LONG IS CHARGED WITH…Breach of pastoral relationship as a “sexual predator,” fiduciary misappropriation as an “unfit agent” of an organization, false representation characterized as “exploitive propensities.”

Bishop Eddie Long is said to have a history of singling out students of his Longfellows Youth Academy for sexual gratification. He’s accused of conducting “covenant” ceremonies with his “Spiritual Sons” to consummate his intercourse with them. During these candle-lit ceremonies, Bishop Long is said to use scriptural citations and bestow jewelry upon young males that are have father hunger.

Among his three accusers are 21-year old Anthony Flag, 21-year old Maurice Robinson and 23-year old Jamal Parris.

In 2001, Jamal Parris and his mother joined New Birth Missionary Church. Within two weeks of joining the mega congregation, Bishop Long gave Parris his personal cell phone number and encouraged him to call him. The lycra wearing Bishop was a charismatic presence with his tight-fitting shirts. Upon hearing of Parris’s disappointment with his father, Bishop Long offered to “protect him and never let another man hurt him like his father did,” according to court documents filed by Co-Counsel(s) Brenda Joy Bernstein (Georgia State Bar No: 054904), James (Jay) Sadd (Georgia State Bar No: 622010), Katherine Ventulett Hernacki (Georgia State Bar No: 727027).

During the 2004-2005 school year, Long began wantonly requesting Parris remain after service awaiting in his private office. He is said to have also taken Parris to his guesthouse on Snapfinger Road to engage in oral sodomy (“salad tossing”), sexual massages (“hand jobs”) and other sexual activity. En route Long would engage in fondling and oral sex with Parris requesting to be called “Daddy.” Long took Parris on trips to Arkansas, Charleston, Charlotte, Chicago, Dallas, Houston, Los Angeles, Miami, New Jersey, New York, Orlando, San Francisco, Honduras, Nassau and Trinidad where they shared rooms overnight.

Here's a photo of Bishop Long which he is supposed to have sent Parris

Bishop Long is also accused of engaging in sexual activity with other New Birth parishioners, employees and pupils of Longfellows Youth Academy.

In 2009, Parris began dating a woman and distanced and separated himself from Long. In June 2010, he reached out to his “Spiritual Sons” peers to determine the extent of Bishop Long’s inappropriate activity. Witnesses to his relations with Long include Andrew Momon, Antonio Render and April McGlaughlin.

In addition to being subjected to public scorn and ridicule, Parris’s injuries include severe emotional distress, mental pain and suffering and adverse physical conditions. Parris is seeking punitive damages against Bishop Long, New Birth Missionary Church and affiliated parties.

Bishop Long has responded to these charges, “I feel like David against Goliath. I have five rocks and I ain’t thrown a single one.”

Loving A Black Man

2010-09-24T08:11:00.000-07:00

By S-Dot for The S-Dot Files

Black Love people,

It's been a hot minute since I've posted any blogs, but I'm b-a-c-k!!!

We're into the 2nd season of The BOOTY Call Show presented by The S-Dot Files which airs live on Fridays at 10 pm - midnight (EST). Here's the description for tonight's show. You definitely want to go back and peruse the archives for some REAL talk on Black-on-Black Love.

Perhaps you’re manless because you’re clueless. What do you really know about LOVING A BLACKMAN? Join us for another oh-no-he didn’t discussion on Black-on-Black Love, we’ll be getting in comparing and sharing how-to tips to equip Us to love Us. And it’s movie night, so we’ll also be taking a look at the film Antwone Fisher examining how you can take some invaluable lessons from this powerful film and apply them to your love + life journey. Keep it 100, you’re girlfriends and even your boyfriends are clueless about LOVING A BLACKMAN, so grab yourself a pen and pad – it’s time to get schooled on this must-hear and share REAL talk episode on Friday, September 24, 2010 @ 10 pm – midnight (EST) call-in 347.308.8527.

Listen live or download the archive to your iTunes/media player to share with others.

Burning Down the Plantation

2010-07-10T05:43:00.000-07:00

By S-Dot for The S-Dot Files

Dan "Massa" Gilbert, "Majority Owner" of the Cleveland Cavs Plantation

Dan Gilbert’s verbal assault and battery against Cleveland’s “former hero” is a sad footnote to the Cinderfella story the Cavs have been selling to fans for years. Touting Lebron as “King James” the franchise painted him as a ballplayer of biblical proportions that was without peer in order to fill the stadium stands. Now since Lebron, like many of us, made a decision to move on his former boss is griping about a damn 2-week notice.

Let’s keep it 100, how many employers give their employees 2-week notices?

You can come in on Monday and find out that “your position has been downsized” and “security will give you 10 minutes to clean out your desk and then escort you to the lobby,” to which most employees are expected to accept and do that sort of treatment.

As a working man who doesn’t make millions of dollars I personally was overjoyed to see a “worker” stick it the “owners” for once.

F*ck Dan Gilbert!

There I said it. I double dare you to ask me to take it back too. In fact, let me say it again in case you might think that was a typo, “F*ck Dan Gilbert!”

He can cry until his eyes are red for all I care. Lebron, like most people that “work” for someone else made a decision to move onto the next-level of opportunities. He’s not a slave that has to stay tied to a plantation that obviously is very ungrateful as Dan Gilbert’s 429-word diatribe bemoans. Get over your damn self already Dan.

He began a media rant with, ““He has gotten a free pass” as if he’s Abraham Lincoln. Imagine that. Gilbert went on and told the Associate Press, “…It's not about him leaving. It's the disrespect. It's time for people to hold these athletes accountable for their actions. Is this the way you raise your children? I've been holding this all in for a long time.’’ Hmm, “Is this the way you raise your children?” WTF! Dan Gilbert now sees himself in a fatherhood role because he took the slave out of the ghetto apparently.

The big crying fit seems to be about James and Dwayne Wade being in their prime and poised to dominate the courts for the next few seasons. Around my way we have an expression that is applicable here, “Don’t hate the player, hate the game.”

Anyone that’s ever wanted to fire their boss is likely inspired by Lebron’s bold move to leave the Cavs plantation for the beautiful landscape of South Beach.

He guarantees that “he” will deliver a ring to the city as if he actually has any athletic ability. This is clearly a display of arrogance believing that his money can buy what should and must be ordained by the Most High. He willfully placed himself in the position of “Provider” because he thinks he can use his riches to control people and purchase treasures.

To burn a man’s jersey symbolically speaks of a desire to destroy him with vengeance. That’s pride. To arrogantly suggest that he should be banned from the city is jealousy. A true leader serves the people that follow them by exemplifying an example of service to the greater common good.

And now...here's Massa Dan's letter:

Cleveland Cavaliers owner Dan Gilbert posted this letter on Cavs.com after LeBron James decided he was leaving for the Miami Heat.

Dear Cleveland, All Of Northeast Ohio and Cleveland Cavaliers Supporters Wherever You May Be Tonight;

As you now know, our former hero, who grew up in the very region that he deserted this evening, is no longer a Cleveland Cavalier.

This was announced with a several day, narcissistic (“this n*gg* is crazy”), self-promotional build-up culminating with a national TV special of his "decision" unlike anything ever "witnessed" in the history of sports and probably the history of entertainment.

Clearly, this is bitterly disappointing to all of us.

The good news is that the ownership team and the rest of the hard-working (kiss ups), loyal (controlled), and driven staff (slaves) over here at your hometown Cavaliers have not betrayed you nor NEVER will betray you.

There is so much more to tell you about the events of the recent past and our more than exciting future. Over the next several days and weeks, we will be communicating much of that to you.

You simply don't deserve this kind of cowardly betrayal.

You have given so much and deserve so much more.

In the meantime, I want to make one statement to you tonight:

"I PERSONALLY GUARANTEE THAT THE CLEVELAND CAVALIERS WILL WIN AN NBA CHAMPIONSHIP BEFORE THE SELF-TITLED FORMER ‘KING’ WINS ONE"

You can take it to the bank.

If you thought we were motivated before tonight to bring the hardware to Cleveland, I can tell you that this shameful display of selfishness and betrayal by one of our very own has shifted our "motivation" to previously unknown and previously never experienced levels.

Some people think they should go to heaven but NOT have to die to get there.

Sorry, but that's simply not how it works.

This shocking act of disloyalty from our home grown "chosen one" sends the exact opposite lesson of what we would want our children to learn. And "who" we would want them to grow-up to become.

But the good news is that this heartless and callous action can only serve as the antidote to the so-called "curse" on Cleveland, Ohio.

The self-declared former "King" will be taking the "curse" with him down south. And until he does "right" by Cleveland and Ohio, James (and the town where he plays) will unfortunately own this dreaded spell and bad karma.

Just watch.

Sleep well, Cleveland.

Tomorrow is a new and much brighter day....

I PROMISE you that our energy, focus, capital, knowledge and experience will be directed at one thing and one thing only:

DELIVERING YOU the championship you have long deserved and is long overdue....

Dan Gilbert
Majority Owner
Cleveland Cavaliers

The Metaphysics of Sex with Alexyss K. Tylor

2010-04-29T09:19:00.000-07:00

By S-Dot for The S-Dot Files

Let’s keep it 100: relationships these days can be…complicated. The ‘don’t dos’ and ‘how tos’ can be confusing. With so many choices it can be so damn…complicated. Discovering your power will enlighten you to make more conscious choices. It doesn’t have to be…complicated.

It’s time to learn the Metaphysics of Sex. Stop f*cking around and start empowering yourself. Recognize the true power that exists within you. The Metaphysics of Sex is an empowering experience that will provide you with insight to help get to the next-level of your relationships in love + life.

On April 10th 2010 Alexyss K. Tylor unleashed the next chapter of her movement to empower singles and couples with her NYC debut lecture the Metaphysics of Sex. The city has been buzzing ever since…

No matter where you are on your love + life journey it’s important that you be empowered with information that transforms your thinking and doing to move beyond the love-blocking and life-limiting beliefs that are keeping you from truly experiencing the true power that exists within you. Tired of dating and mating with the wrong people? It’s not them, it’s Y-O-U that needs to remix the way you view relationships.

Keeping It 100 with Alexyss: “When you are taught to be in the third dimensional realm of low-level f*cking, porn f*cking. You want to f*ck like a porn star or you want to out f*ck or out suck somebody…you are in the very low destructive level of sex. That’s not what sex is about. We’re taught that sex is about pleasure, ejaculation and sex gratification. But we have not been told how incredible, magnificent and special we are.”

On July 10th 2010 the Vagina Power diva returns…that’s right it’s time for The Summer of the D*ck. Yes, it’s time for Penis Power!

Here’s a peek of what to expect…

( ( ( sDOTtv ) ) ) now playing The Metaphysics of Sex lecture April 10th 2010

THE SUMMER OF THE D*CK JULY 10, 2010 IN NYC
Penis Power…Do you know the true power that exists within you? That’s right Alexyss K. Tylor of the Vagina Power movement will be coming to NYC on July 10, 2010 with musical guests Raye 6, Cocoa Sarai and Mia Miata with music provided by Supa Nova Slom to unleash Penis Power! Don’t miss it…THE SUMMER OF THE D*CK is here!!!

RSVP: alexyssktylorvp@gmail.com for the July 10th 2010 experience today!!!

Join us this Friday, April 30th @ 10 pm - midnight (EST) on The BOOTY Call Show with S-Dot for "Being Precious" featuring the incomparable Ms. Alexyss K. Tylor. Call-in at 347.308.8527 early because the lines will be full. Click by and listen + chat LIVE. Tell a friend to tell a friend. This is a DON'T MISS EXPERIENCE!!!

Is Your Mama a Ho?

2010-04-28T14:22:00.000-07:00

By S-Dot for The S-Dot Files

WTF NEWS: Dallas Cowboy’s first round draft pick Dez Bryant was asked by Miami Dolphin GM Jeff Ireland if his mother was a “prostitute” because she conceived him as a teen and spent 18-months incarcerated on drug-related charges. WTF!

In my hood, if you go in on somebody’s mama like that you’ll get chin-checked.

According to sports commentator Skip Bayless, “no question is out of bounds,” because “these franchises are risking millions and millions of dollars on these kids.” Isn’t a “kid” a young goat? WTF!

( ( ( sDOTtv ) ) ) now playing Dez Bryant “From the Auction Block (Draft)”

Why is it necessary to continually make reference to his “upbringing” as if because he’s had a hardknock struggle that means he should be “extra” thankful that they’re going to make millions off him playing ball on their damn plantation!

Interestingly enough, while commuting this week I overheard an Anglo-Saxon remark to a Black woman on the subway about her child, “He looks like he’s very strong. He’ll probably grow up and play basketball or football. Look at those calves and arms on him. Yes, he’s a natural born athlete.”

Of course he didn’t expect me to ask, “Why can’t he grow up to be an engineer, doctor or college professor?” The look on his face was priceless when the mother said, “Yes, why can’t he?” WTF!

He quickly got up and exited the train at the next stop without saying another word.
WTF!

Do Something!!!

2010-04-20T14:59:00.000-07:00

By S-Dot for The S-Dot Files

In response to the overwhelming outpouring of support for the support of the FREE APRIL GRIFFIN movment here are a few information links for you to DO SOMETHING!!!

Here's links to the Time Magazine articles Keep in mind that this reporters account is from the perspective of the officers and he DID NOT interview April or her family, although he claimed a retraction would be printed to clarify the details. We're still waiting...

TIME MAGAZINE 10/8/08 Article: Sad End to Milwaukee Child Custody Case

TIME MAGAZINE 12/19/07 Article: When Motherhood Gets You Jail Time Pt 1

TIME MAGAINZE 12/19/07 Article: Choosing Jail Over Joint Custody Pt 2

Contact: Congresswoman Gwen Moore (D-Wisc): 4043 N 19th Place, Milwaukee, WI 53209-6806 (Milwaukee-Waukesha, WI Metro Area), P: 414.444.6160

Amplify the volume of this effort and make your opinions known by calling Senator Moore who has sadly been silent on this. She's been aware of this effort for the last 2 years and done ABSOLUTELY NOTHING and was quite suprised to begin receiving calls yesterday. Let's turn up the heat people - FREE APRIL GRIFFIN!!!

Let us pray: We call upon the Spirit of Liberation to shine the beacon of truth at this hour of darkness. We call upon the Spirit of Righteousness to loosen the ties that bind our sister April Griffin from the snares of her enemies known and unknown. O’ Holy Spirit indwell our sister with the strength and fortitude to endure the cowardly attacks of her oppressors. Rise up O’ Spirit within her to give her the courage to continue to not just fight, but to prevail over adversity.

Sister Ieshuh has been proactive in getting feeding the grassroots initiatives to bring awareness to the plight of FREE APRIL GRIFFIN to the forefront of conversation. Sister Ieshuh is actively engaged in the struggle of liberation beyond merely hiding behind the façade of activism. She is in the crosshairs of the efforts to FREE APRIL GRIFFIN!

Link with the FREE APRIL GRIFFIN movement: www.freeaprilgriffin.ning.com
E: freeaprilgriffin@yahoo.com | DO SOMETHING TODAY!!!

Free April Griffin!!!

2010-04-16T09:16:00.001-07:00

By S-Dot for The S-Dot Files

This video speaks best about the plight of sister April Griffin who is currently incarcerated for "custodial interference" because she refused to give the physically abusive father of her child access to her son. April has been railroaded into prison and her child has disappeared with the court granting custody to the deadbeat dad - who isn't even a U.S. citizen. WTF!!!

That's right, watch it for yourself.

( ( ( sDOTtv ) ) ) now playing The April Griffin Case: Get Involved!!!

Join us this Sunday, April 18th @ 6 p.m. (EST) for "Tell Them Why You're Mad" which will feature an interview with Sister Ieshuh who is April's sister to learn how you can get involved to FREE APRIL GRIFFIN!!!

You're Not My Wife!!! R-U-N for Your Life

2010-04-01T09:20:00.001-07:00

By S-Dot for The S-Dot Files

If she's C-R-A-Z-Y that's not SEXY or COOL.

CASE IN POINT: I know a young man that engaged in sexual roughhousing with his live-in girlfriend who “liked it rough.” He failed to properly discern that she had unresolved sexual trauma. This was foundational for her desire for choking, hitting and abuse during sex which she was socialized to perceive as being pleasurable. This guy was never particularly comfortable with this and mentioned his discomfort she belittled him as being “less than a man” and claimed a “real man would love it.”

Finally, one day when he tried to end their relationship, he found himself in handcuffs.

She waited until after a ‘breakup’ sex episode and then contacted the police to file a report. Imagine that.

On this Friday's show we'll be talking about how to spot the warning signs that she might be more than just a 'drama queen' she maybe C-R-A-Z-Y, that's right she may actually have mental problems that need to be dealt with and resolved before you try to take that relationship to the next-level.

Join us at 10 p.m. - midnight (EST) for "You're Not My Wife" with S-Dot & Friends. Call-in 347.308.8527 to share in this life-saving conversation.

Beware of those who hide behind texting and other forms of alternative communicating. This is usually a tactic used by a black widow to lull you into a false sense of security. They’ll typically text, e-mail or message you constantly to consume a lot of your time. If you are needful of attention, you will misconstrue this as healthy, but it’s actually a ruse. Pay attention!!!

Whenever conversations about man abuse are had there must be an interjection of woman abuse in the conversation, why is that? This is an indicator that the seriousness of this crime is still being framed through the eyes of others. As men, we have to take charge of this dialogue that affects our liberty and quality of life pursuits. It is absolutely appalling to see this passive-aggressive form of sexism that is disguised as activism. Let’s stay focused on the topic at hand.

Asking the right questions will enable you to determine if a potential partner suffers from a Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). Do not get caught up in the physicality of the Law of Distraction.

Listen to the way she describes her past relationships. Does she have baby daddy drama that she plays a significant role in? Perhaps she uses her children as missiles to wound her ex. Beware of those who simply won’t let the relationship end. If you’ve been clear things are not working out and this person continues to try to use sex or other methods to manipulate you into remaining in contact with them – be careful.

Document your contact with them. Save e-mails, texts and IMs on your hard drive. Keep a journal. Make certain to share your concerns with someone else who can later corroborate your testimony if necessary.

Don’t glean without your jeans. That’s right don’t let sex obscure the true view of who you’re dealing with. Until you’ve determined this person brings added-valued beyond the volume of their voice – don’t engage in intimacy.

WARNING SIGN – she watches you sleep and when you awake demands to know what you were thinking about.

If you or someone you know has been 'chick slapped' don't tolerate it. Get out of that relationship. Don't let that person undermine your manhood with threats of violence. A REAL man saves his life, not throws it away. Get help. R-U-N for your life!!!

Got Chick Slapped? Call 800-799-7233 www.ndvh.org (National Domestic Violence Hotline) - It's confidential and it may save your life.

Familiarity Breeds Contempt

2010-03-18T07:11:00.001-07:00

By S-Dot for The S-Dot Files

Peops,

Today's share simply needs to be watched to get the point. It's sad to see what my grandmother always said to me growing up "familiarity breeds contempt" growing up. The blatant disrespect of the Office of the President by Fox News during this interview is yet another example of how comfortable others have gotten in being disrespectful.

If this looks like you...check yourself!

( ( ( sDOTtv ) ) ) now playing Barack Obama "The Interruption"

Visit msnbc.com for breaking news, world news, and news about the economy

The DNA of Man Abuse

2010-03-12T16:37:00.000-08:00

By S-Dot for The S-Dot Files

Couples don't usually start out whipping each others *sses, there is a process that leads to this vicious cycle Having shared a similar upbringing as C-Breezy, like a lot of men that watched their moms endure abuse it is typical for many men to develop an aversion to violence. This is attractive to women that have been reared in similar environments. They are drawn to the prospect of being able to wield control over men that can be manipulated and controlled.

Typically a black widow personality type seeks attention and has an idolatrous relationship with themselves. Most will be fixated on hogging the spotlight and will oftentimes fight others for the mirror because they have an "all eyes of me" mindset. These attention-hungry individuals will oftentimes be drawn to others whose star is on the rise to siphon off their "it" factor like energy vampires. They will usually be jealous and respond with rage when they aren't the focal point of the conversation. Most practice 'me-olgoy' the religion of "doing me" and develop a god/goddess complex.

Just think about the characters portrayed by Eddie Murphy and Robin Givens in the movie Boomerang, both of them were black widow personality types. You might've seen them in the clubs screaming about their independent vaginas or boasting about their magic sticks. If this sounds like someone you're considering dating R-U-N!!!

I believe that Rihanna is a young woman that has not fully dealt with the roots of her emotional and physical abuse growing up in a hostile, dysfunctional environment. By her own admission, she has a history of exhibiting aggressive behavior towards men and even admits to expecting to be hit like her mom.

Perhaps you know a man or woman that seems to get off on being abused. If they want you to 'hit it' before you hit it...R-U-N!!! These are the types aroused by make up sex. There have been many eyewitness accounts of her being overly aggressive in trying to curtail Chris' interaction with other people, especially women. Despite being talented and attractive, she like many people suffers from low self-esteem. Beware of women that boast of having their "own house, car and jobs" these are smoke screens for dysfunction oftentimes. Lots of people that are in the public eye suffer from this desire to be seen and heard at all costs. Oftentimes they pay the ultimate price with their lives. If this sounds like you, get help!

People afflicted with personality disorders like BPD and narcissism, etc. show little remorse for their actions. Sadly, many of them will even be elevated as "survivor" emblems without people fully vetting their accounts and examining the roots they sprung from. Because women report their violence and most men suffer in silence the societal response is usually to side with the woman; even in cases where it's been shown she initiated the violence. The stereotypical response when a man is absued by a woman is "what did he do to her?" as if his behavior warrants her abuse. However, we know that the reverse is not tolerated. No matter what a woman does it is socially unacceptable for a man to hit her. Sound like a double standard? Men are told to "restrain her" or "run away." Women are told to "do whatever you have to do." This is a common problem that has led to many men eventually getting incarcerated and losing their lives when they "snap" because they can't take the abuse anymore.

If you are a man experiencing domestic abuse, get help. Don't suffer in silence. You're life could depend on it!

Here are just a few signs she maybe an abuser:
1. Fakes PMS just to excuse her lashing out (monitor and document her cycle)
2. Refers to your “little” friends, etc. condescendingly
3. Calls or texts and flips out when you don’t respond immediately
4. Makes “a real man would…” comments to wound you verbally

Don’t allow people to “play” with you in ways that you are uncomfortable with. Even if a person doesn’t physically hurt you while “playing” they are sowing the seeds to later victimize you.

Did you get “chick slapped”? Does she have a hand and mouth problem? Are you sick and tired of the physical and verbal abuse?

Many abusers will rationalize their violence as being stressed-related. Women abusers hide behind “PMS” and post partum depression (PPD) as the basis for their violent lashing out.

I oftentimes say, “Good head can give you bad credit,” and most folks chuckle at the realness of that statement. However, good head can also kill you as well. Just because she gives you “good” head that doesn’t excuse the reality that she’s a head case that has problems. R-U-N!!!

Got Chick Slapped? Call 800-799-7233 www.ndvh.org (National Domestic Violence Hotline) - It's confidential and it may save your life.

Here's the search warrant issued to the LAPD

The Pattern of Abuse…
According to TMZ.com, “The first occurred in Europe three months before the February 8 attack. Rihanna and Brown got into a verbal dispute and she slapped him. According to the report, he reacted by shoving her into a wall. The second incident occurred approximately 3 weeks prior to the February attack. Brown and Rihanna were in Barbados and were driving a Range Rover. They argued, and Brown got out of the car, and allegedly broke the front driver and passenger side windows.”

CHRIS SPEAKS…
“There have been reports on the internet that I didn’t remember what happened that night with Rihanna. I want to try and set things straight.

That 30 seconds of the interview they used of me was taken from a one hour interview during which that same question was asked something like 4 or 5 times — and when you look at the entire interview you will see it is not representative of what I said.

The first four times – or how ever many times it was – I gave the same answer — which was that I didn’t think it was appropriate for me to talk about what happened that night. I said it was not right for me and it really wasn’t fair to Rihanna. The fifth time – or whatever it was – I just misspoke. I was asked, “Do you remember doing it?” and I said, “No.”

Of course I remember what happened. Several times during the interview, my mother said that I came to her right afterwards and told her everything. But it was and still is a blur. And yes, I still can’t believe it happened because it is not me or who I am or is what happened like anything I have ever done before.

As I have said several times previously, I am ashamed of and sorry for what happened that night and I wish I could relive that moment and change things, but I can’t. I take full responsibility for my actions. What I have to do now is to prove to the world that this was an isolated incident and that is not who I am and I intend to do so by my behavior now and in the future.”

Here's Chris Brown doing community service

The Castration of Today's Man

2010-03-11T11:05:00.000-08:00

By S-Dot for The S-Dot Files

C-Boogie, I got you. Let's ride on these man-haters that want to tell half the story and not the whole truth. You were involved in an abusive relationship with a diva that had a power complex. You made an error in judgment (I would've beat your *ss if it were my daughter, but that's me), and I don't think it's fair that no one's talking about her role in the initial relationship violence prior to that night.

Let's end the MAN ABUSE.

( ( ( sDOTcast ) ) ) now playing Chris Brown "Message to Fans"

Now let's rock with C-Boogie...

( ( ( sDOTtv ) ) ) now playing Chris Brown "With You"

The Rage Virus: When Women Attack!

2010-03-05T11:23:00.000-08:00

By S-Dot for The S-Dot Files

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Peops,

Happy Women's Month. Tonight's show in observance of the great women that I know is a healing episode for some hurting women and men in need of healing and deliverance. For some brothers, this will be a painful glance into the mirror for sisters it will be a much needed reality check. There are many women that are suffering in silence today and they lash out in anger with self-destructiveness. This is not healthy. It is inexcusable. It's no more acceptable for a violent women then it is for a violent men. Both of them need help.

Are you ready to get healed and be delivered?

Perhaps you claim you don't have any issues. I know, it's everyone else. We have the problem. Now, wake the f*ck up, you've got a life to live and you're delaying your destiny by not dealing with your issues. Don't miss this empowering episode tonight at 10 p.m. - midnight (EST). Call a friend. Yes, that "friend" that has that "problem" and give them the gift of change.

The Rage Virus: When Women Attack! The BOOTY Call Show episode 47

Do You Have the RAGE VIRUS?

It’s not just the “Handsome Helens” that will “chick slap” a man these days. More and more women aren’t just “thinking” they’re now unfortunately “acting” like their abusive male counterparts, why is this? Has the “rage virus” also infected today’s woman? What can we do to restore the equilibrium to the relationships between men and women and move away from the violence in their relationships? It’s time to end the domestic silence on one of the most taboo situations: When Women Attack!

Join us Friday, March 5th, 2010 @ 10 p.m. – midnight (EST). Call-in 347.308.8527

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Tonight’s show will feature excerpts from Bryon Katie’s empowering audio book I Need Your Love. This is a powerful experience that calls you to ask and answer the questions you have about love. Bryon is an inspiring author and transformation coach whose “work” has helped millions to remove their love-blocking and life-limiting beliefs.

Click by www.byronkatie.com and www.thework.com to experience her for yourself.

Step Up Front

2010-03-02T07:48:00.000-08:00

By S-Dot for The S-Dot Files

This blog is dedicated to Keith “Guru” Elam of Gangstarr who is battling for his life after suffering a “cardiac episode” this week. Guru is undergoing surgery and our prayers go out to him and his family in this time of crisis. To DJ Premier and the whole Gangstarr Foundation from East New York and beyond, stay up my dudes!!!

This tweet just end from DJ Premier

Good news: #guru surgery was successful, keep sending him love
about 4 hours ago via web (follow DJ Premier)

Feel like spitting a 16 sometimes and don’t have any beats? Don’t worry I got you (you’re welcome). Now, get it in…

( ( ( sDOTcast ) ) ) now playing Jay Electronica “Beaterator Instrumental”

( ( ( sDOTtv ) ) ) now playing Ralph Mc Daniels Hip Hop Pioneers

Hey Young World,

It is mandatory for you to know your hip-hop history if you proclaim to represent the Hip Hop Nation. As KRS One says, “You must learn.”

Still Ego Trippin’

Uhh...Nice form...

www.KanyeWest.com launches where you can expect…what else, more flicks of his gal pal Amber Rose like this one. Mr. Got a Big Ego has continually placed himself and his arm candy in the public eye making spectacles of themselves wherever cameras are around. This is Kanye’s ‘payback’ for all those lame dudes that never got the girl and now have turned the table.

Until next blog, keep it 100 and remember to be your authentic self. The 3-2-1 countdown continues...there are just 19 days left!!!

The Book of S-Dot

2010-02-22T11:07:00.001-08:00

By S-Dot for The S-Dot Files

What's good Dot-seekers? Thanks for clicking by. Today, has been a very interesting day after a very productive (creative-wise) weekend. I sent out an e-mail to 40 of my peops in my "inner circle" reading group that I want to repost to share in this space since it's applicable to many of you as well.

For those who've clicked by The BOOTY Call Show and checked it out live or in the archives, thanks.

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Today, I recorded a 90-minute show reading excerpts from chapter one "Day One: Face the Mirror" from my eBook "Keeping It 100: Being Your Authentic Self" I would appreciate it if you could click by and download it from the archives (episode #43 entitled "The Book of S-Dot") to your desktop or iPod and share your feedback with me on the book. Also, please send an e-mail to thesdotfiles@gmail.com and The Dot Team will add you to the database (no Spam from Shaam don't worry-LOL) and send you a FREE PDF version of chapter one within 7-10 days.

Yes, I did say FREE. That means no moolah. Absolutely FREE. Not a single cent. FREE!

I really appreciate your feedback and I specifically thought about making you part of this feedback experience because I value your opinion. This is NOT just another "blah, blah, blah" blog from "...talking about some crazy..." (as I'm sure you've said a time or two). Also, please feel free to repost/forward this to others as well so that advance word of mouth buzz can continue to build on the book (thanks).

ARE YOU THE HATERGIZER BUNNY? Still hating...

Hey, even if you're reading this hating saying "who the hell does he think he is..." it's okay, we accept haters on the street team too (now that's real game). If you're hating me (perhaps you should start loving you, which is why you definitely need to starting Keeping It 100 today (nice pun, huh?), send this to your whole email address book ("he's got a lot of nerve"), text it ("ck this out www.blogtalkradio.com/thesdotfiles"), update your FB and MS status ("hating on S-Dot's new book "Keeping It 100: Being Your Authentic Self"), tweet it, write a blog about it. Post a youtube clip on it. Tell your mail carrier about it. Whatever you do, just tell someone about it today. LOL

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Got Questions? Get Answers. Send an e-mail with "Ask S-Dot" in the subject for your questions on love + life issues to thesdotfiles@gmail.com and tune in Wednesdays @ 8 p.m. (EST) for "Handle Your Business" and Fridays @ 10 p.m. - midnight (EST) for The BOOTY Call Show with S-Dot & Friends presented by The S-Dot Files on BTR

It''s All About That Benefits Baby!!!

2010-02-19T15:02:00.000-08:00

By S-Dot for The S-Dot Files

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Keep it 100, is that a “friendship” or is it a “pretendship”?

"What y'all wanna do..." Do you have an "It's All About the Benefits Baby!" mindset when it comes to friendship where the only "benefit" seems to be you giving up or humping down the BOOTY? Does your phone only ring during off-peak hours? Tired of being "makeout takeout"? Has the neon glimmer of the limelight lost its soul glow? Sick of being a "strobelight honey"? Is being a "sugar daddy" no longer as appealing as it once was? Maybe you're ready for...CHANGE. Let's have REAL talk this Friday, February 19th @ 10 pm - midnight (EST) Join S-Dot & Friends call-in 347.308.8527

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Simply dial 347.308.8527 from your home, office or mobile phone and press “1” to join into the conversation.

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The Bobblehead Chronicles: Part 3 Absalom’s Revenge

Tonight’s show will feature music and audiobook clips as well. Tune in and join into the conversation.

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"And because of His Words many more became believers." - John 4:41

The Hatergizer Bunny...Still Hating

2010-02-17T08:00:00.000-08:00

By S-Dot for The S-Dot Files

( ( ( sDOTtv ) ) ) now playing Beanie Sigel disses Jay-Z & T.I.

The ‘angriest man alive’ tour continues. Here are this week’s shots fired by Roc-a-Fella turncoat Beanie Sigel going at the Carter Administration. Mr. President hasn’t directly responded to the tirades and accusations by his now disgruntled lyrical henchman that takes every public opportunity to spit venom.

This clip is just a friendly reminder for "block bullies" that like to f*ck with people that aren't bothering you...

( ( ( sDOTtv ) ) ) now playing Payback is a M_____F____

Stay tuned for observations on how-to unravel your brand.

Music Therapy

2010-02-08T16:46:00.000-08:00

By S-Dot for The S-Dot Files

For this week’s episode of The BOOTY Call Show (on Tuesday, February 9th at 10 p.m. and not the usual Friday night 10 p.m. – midnight) we’ll be using music to offer listeners some songs they can relate to in their love + life relationships.

You can hum your way to healing or dance your way to deliverance from your afflictions. Simply have a Jodeci moment and “don’t talk…just listen” to this thought-provoking, body moving episode.

( ( ( sDOTtv ) ) ) now playing Common “How I Wrote the Song”

Celebrate the universal essence of truth in music. Let it liberate you from your love-blocking and life-limiting beliefs. It’s been often said, “Music soothes the savage beast,” well it’s also used to incite beastly behavior. Be mindful of what you feed your ears, which are doors to your soul. Don’t deny the transformational power of M-U-S-I-C which is a force that move people to feelings like happiness, sadness, angst, love and hate.

( ( ( sDOTtv ) ) ) now playing Nas “How I Wrote the Song”

LISTENER ADVISORY: This show will contain visually descriptive content of sensual relations. If you are uncomfortable with hearing or discussing such matters, you are strongly encouraged to not listen to this episode. On this “Ask S-Dot “episode ‘Mr. Oh-No-He-Didn’t’ will share some advice using music to set the mood. That’s right, it’s music + therapy. Have a “Jodeci moment.” That’s right, “Don’t talk, just listen.” Download this episode to your desktop or iPod to listen to at your leisure and get some real talk advice on love + life that offers you a soundtrack to apply the Rule of K.I.M. (keep it moving) in your relationships. Join us Tuesday, February 9th, 2010 @ 10 p.m. – midnight (EST) Call-in 347.308.8527 | Got Questions? Get Answers: thesdotfiles@gmail.com type “Ask S-Dot” in the subject.

Jay-Z Makes People Ask “WTF!!!”

2010-02-05T09:38:00.000-08:00

By S-Dot for The S-Dot Files

A virtuous woman of God sent me this link: Jay-Z’s “Run This Town” and the Occult Connections by Vigilant

I clicked by and read the scathing blog against Jay-Z and was not amazed. I’ve written similar sort of blogs about others in the past. During my days of being a “Pharisee” I made it my business to “out” everyone that I discerned in my own was not “of God.” This was in my case a form of self-idolatry. I placed myself in a position of not being someone in the bell tower, but rather a clanging symbol to distract others from the specks within my own eyes.

On of Jay-Z’s rapping peers Prodigy of the group Mobb Deep recently added this gasoline to the fire, “(Jay-Z) J.Z. knows the truth, but he chose sides with evil in order to be accepted in the corporate world. (Jay-Z) J.Z. conceals the truth from the black community and the world, and promotes the lifestyle of the beast instead,” he wrote in a handwritten letter to URB from the pen.

Rihanna throwing up the sign in question...

Jay-Z says the song is “evolution and the progress” and is about “putting your flag down” when you “put your flag in the top of the mountain.”

THE WATERBOY… “Bobby Jay-Z is the devil…he’s not the devil mama”

Is Jay-Z in league with the “hidden hands” of power? Some say his new video directed Anthony Mandler (of Rihanna’s “Disturbia” video) “We Run This Town” which features a spiked hair Damsel in Distress Rihanna and skinny jeans adorning Mr. Super Ego Kanye West is loaded with symbols and icons that suggest his affiliation with some shadowy figures. Is it true, or merely him capitalizing off of nosey people’s preoccupation with his socio-political affliations? You decide here’s a link that offers some thought-provoking commentary on the matter. Again, we don’t hold a specific opinion on this matter, we just think it’s quite interesting the level of fascination some have with the lives of others, and we’re of course using this as a reminder of the importance of each of us focusing on the Most High ourselves.

( ( ( sDOTtv ) ) ) now playing Jay-Z “We Run This Town”

The dark, hooded figures in this clip add an ominous backdrop to the visuals which I believe is done intentionally. Why? Young people are drawn to rebellion. Just look at the “little penguins” all around you wearing their skinny jeans uniforms in defiance to manhood by embracing androgyny as a fashion emblem. And of course there’s the “valley of dry bones” with young people’s fascination with gothic garb like from the interestingly named “Gnostic Wear” clothing line by Jim Jones of the Byrd Gang/Diplomats. People that are marketing savvy know how to exploit the impressionable minds of young people desirous of rebellious music, entertainment, clothing, video games, etc.

This is Hip Hop 101: Viral Angst Marketing

Anthems are big business in hip-hop. Movement music is what moves units. If you craft a platform that street families (gangs, etc.) can co-opt you have created a loyal audience that will purchase your clothing, music, video games, movies, etc. by the droves because it resonates with their group consciousness. That’s fitted Yankees cap becomes a “flag” for the local Crip set. Those fire engine red Reeboks become status emblems for the Bloods. We are an icon-driven generation, society and economy.

Video Vixens Ciara and Rihanna making a scene

When the logo (word) becomes flesh – that is power in motion. This is why it’s important that each of us is absolutely certain that we’re following the Most High and not merely those in high-fashion or who are high-minded with self-idolatry. Whatever your emblem, logo, etc. recognize that God is God, period!

Every street family has a “Run this Town” mentality that fuels them to action. They desire to be seen and heard. Most of them form these families because they are disenfranchised and ostracized by those who hide out in communities of faith acting all “spiritual” and “spooky” pointing fingers while casting downward glares on them.

The logo in question...

REWIND…When Jay brought Oprah to Brooklyn he was carrying a book by Eckhart Tolle who is one of Oprah’s favorite authors. He’s sported tees with the caption “Do What Thou Wilst” which is a term popularized by Aleister Crowley, the reformer of the O.T.O. (Ordo Templi Orientis) whose motto and dictum was “Do what Thou Wilt”.

‘Next time in church…please no photos” – Kanye

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Here’s my response to my concerned friend:
Hey Woman of God,

That's pretty interesting. Having run in the same behind-the-scenes circles with Jay since high school, I find this disturbing if it proves to be accurate; and hateful if it's merely someone with too much time on their hands and a speck in their eye casting stones. Either way, ultimately the Most High will judge him and each of us. I think that the most effective evangelical tool is to actually personify the character of Christ, not merely misuse the Bible out of context to persecute others with couch potato speculation. Perhaps my skepticism is rooted in the reality that this same man once stopped me from pulling out a pistol and firing at someone over a dispute with them trying to play me for my ex. So, with that in mind, I guess my opinion of Shawn Corey Carter, who folks call Jay-Z, Beyonce's hubby, LuLu's son is one of utter amazement at the level of scrutiny he has been subjected to for sharing his testimony, his truth with the world. Imagine if those who claim to actually have a relationship with the Most High actually lived and shared their truth with equal and great authenticity? Imagine that. Imagine if those of us in the holier-than-thou Houses of the Faithful & Grateful where we slap holy high-fives actually rolled up our sleeves and went out into the streets and invited the uninvited into the Banquet to be in the Presence of the Most High. Imagine that...indeed. So, when I hear, see and read things like this they serve as reminders of how important it is for me to be a living example of a man of purpose and not just another "mad blogger" that isn't advancing the movement of introducing peopel to the Most High with real talk, by walk real walk.

Thanks for the thought-provoking blog. In fact, I think I'll even share it with folks tonight (no names of course, I have a no snitching policy - lol). Have an outstanding day sis and remember the best way to see a blessing is to actually be a blessing. Let's reflect the love of Christ in our words, actions and deeds because it doesn't matter who's watching us...it matter who's watching all of us...G.O.D.

( ( ( sDOTtv ) ) ) now playing Jay-Z “On to the Next One”

Let's live it!!!

Don't Knock the Ru$$ell

2010-01-23T11:04:00.000-08:00

By S-Dot for The S-Dot Files

“If you want to shine, you have to grind.” – my pops

The evolution of the hip-hop consciousness over the last three (yep, three) decades has been phenomenal. Listen to the President, Mr. Carter kick that realness. It’s time to take your hu$tle to the next-level (whatever your hu$tle is…)

( ( ( sDOTtv ) ) ) now playing Jay-Z “We Run this Town (Interview)”

Don’t do me…DO YOU ALREADY!!!

I remember when mixtapes were actually on tapes…not MP3s (duh!). I remember when having a DAT was more profitable than packing a gat.

Those back alley relationships that were forged have been foundational for what has become today’s independent-minded movement in entertainment. The mixtape paved the way for the grinders that are getting it now through social media. The mixtape was an early tool of “social media” because it was a platform where an artist like 50 Cent proved you could transform your street hu$tle into a force in the marketplace.

This was an era in which enterprising individuals learned the importance of “exclusives” and being the breaking ground for some of the most influential personalities and movements like Bad Boy, the Ruff Ryders, Roc-A-Fella and G-Unit, among others.

Learning how to sequence red-hot songs alongside freestyle “exclusives” created a synergy in the marketplace that required artists to constantly step their spit game up. Mixtapes gave rise to talents like Jay-Z, Tupac, Emimem, Biggie Smalls and Nas.

If you’re a small business owner (SBO) or entrepreneur, you could learn quite a bit from the mixtape hu$tle. Apply those tactics to your social media marketing mix. Having come from this streetwise heritage of experiential marketing, I’ve worked with many of the most renown mixtape, mobile, radio and touring deejays as a publicist, branding consultant, content developer and project manager on campaigns for lifestyle brands slinging everything from jeans, mobile phones and CDs to beverages, credit cards and video games.

Take a few worthwhile moments to peep game (you’re welcome).

( ( ( sDOTtv ) ) ) now playing DJ S & S “History of Mixtapes”

Having mastered this hu$tle I'm glad to see DJ S & S spit that realness. Some of you youngin' have to be schooled on how peops had to make hand-to-hand moves before myspace, twitter and facebook. All this virtual sniping is what it is (love is love), but never, ever, ever, ever disrespect and forget the foundation of the "5th element" of hip-hop: PROMOTIONS.

Shout out to all the street reppers that build buzz from the ground up. Street Teams (XS Marketing, PartyZone, The Insomniacs, etc.), Mixtape DJs (DJ Craig G, Doo Wop, Ron G, Kid Capri, Clue, Kurupt, Sickamore, Vlad, Whoo-Kid) & Graphic Designers (Nojo, Nu-Gen, 5ive5ive, etc.) – HIP-HOP STAND UP!!!

( ( ( sDOTtv ) ) ) now playing DJ S & S “Keeping It 100: The Blog”

“Get your own sh*t, why you ridin’ mines?” – Lil Kim

Join us for "Handle Your Business" Wednesdays @ 8 p.m. on The BOOTY Call Show presented by The S-Dot Files with S-Dot & Friends exclusively by The Dot Team.

Until next time…DON’T KNOCK THE RU$$ELL

Take A Look Around

2010-01-22T09:52:00.000-08:00

By S-Dot for The S-Dot Files

To the People of Haiti: merci pour tout ce que tu fais pour le people.

( ( ( sDOTtv ) ) ) now playing Wycelf’s Press Conference on Haiti
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In the last few days there have been some terrible rumors and accusations in the news about Yele and it founder, Wyclef Jean. If one delves into the background of many of those who have put forth these unfounded claims you’ll discover that they’re either linked to other “non-profit” organizations that are jealous of Yele’s very effective social media campaign via twitter.

The UN relief efforts in Haiti are estimated to offer as many as 22,000 jobs for this economically depressed and naturally devastated island nation. The Red Cross has collect $25 million in its text contribution efforts. Laysha Ward, Community Relations President for Target says the brand has been using its Facebook and Twitter social media pages to “amass a whole new set of donations that otherwise would not be able to be contributed in such a rapid manner.”

Out of this world, self-proclaimed, “King of All Media” Howard Stern maybe returning to the earth bound airwaves of “regular” radio. His five-year $500 million contract with Sirius is up this year. Many speculate that this is Stern’s ploy to get chief executive Mel Karzmazin to ante up with some more dough. He is up-front in his comment, “I can’t ever imagine the day where I’d work for Clear Channel.” This likely stems from the station owner dropping him in six markets for “indecency” prior to his fleeing to the more lucrative satellite airwaves for Sirius.

Mr. Obama administered tough talk to banks that are using depositor cash to speculate on the Market. “So, if these folks want a fight. It’s a fight I’m ready to have. And my resolve is only strengthened when I see a return to old practices at some of the very firms fighting reform.” What he calls “common sense reforms” would increase the level of available cash that must be on hand. The Market felt the sting of his words with Wells Fargo, JP Morgan Chase, Goldman Sachs and Citigroup each having price slippages.

The president supports the dismantling of regulation loopholes that currently allow banks to lend and invest under one financial umbrella. Big Business will also likely line up behind the GOP now the Supreme Court has given a favorable vote on campaign contributions from corporations.

On To The Next One...

2010-01-14T09:23:00.000-08:00

By S-Dot for The S-Dot Files

Hot 97’s Angie Martinez is a very personable, charismatic radio host that knows how to win over her guests and listeners with her infectious laughter and vibrant enthusiasm for all things hip-hop. She brings a refreshing breath to the airwaves with her The Angie Martinez Show that airs daily on the Emmis Communications station in New York.

Here’s a transcript of his exchange with Angie on Wednesday, January 13, 2010.

The Carters came out to support Angie Martinez at her Sunday, January 10th birthday bash

Jay-Z on matters of faith to Angie Martinez on Hot 97: I really think it’s really silly. You know…umm…I of course believe in God. But I believe in one God. You know…if people must know my religious beliefs, I believe in one God. You know…I don’t believe in religions. I don’t believe in Christians or Muslims, I think all that separates people. I think it’s one God, I thinks its all the same God, and I don’t believe in hell. But as far as God, of course I believe in God. Am I a part of a type of sect or cult? That sounds stupid to me, it’s like ignorant to even say. And um…I guess that will be the last time that I address that.

Jay-Z on being a member of the “unseen hand” of power on Hot 97: Yeah right here there’s the Mob Squad (Young Jeezy & Trey Songz who along with him form the “Three Amigos”), Roc Nation is the gang. But as far as…I can’t even get into a golf club in Palm Springs, I’m from Marcy Projects. Imagine, I mean just think about that. (Q: they wouldn’t let you in club you think?) Of course not. How? I mean, people that control the world and you know…

Jay-Z on the belief that there is an “unseen hand” of power on Hot 97: I think there’s friends. I think there’s cliques of friends who control things. I don’t know if it’s a devil worshipping sect. I think that’s a little Tom Hanks. But, I believe there’s a cliques of people that control the world. Like if, you know (Young) Jeezy’s my man, y’all got Atlanta, I go down to Atlanta I got that thing. You know and…if he come to Brooklyn, I got that thing. I go to Virginia…that’s just natural process. I’m sure Obama has his people that you know, everything is good (A: that he rocks with). Yeah. But as far as how far people are taking it… I guess I’m an entertainer.

The March 10th tour date for the Nassau Coliseum has already soldout. Tickets for the March 2nd Madison Square Garden show go on sale Friday, January 15th. Jay-Z (the other S-Dot) has invested in the Fela show which inspired him when he saw the show a couple of times. “I haven’t met one person that went only one time.” Fela is the dearly departed, beloved pioneering Afro-Beat legend who is world renown for his creative genius.

Jay-Z, the other half of the $122 million earning Carter Administration (along with wife-piece Beyoncé) according to Forbes' 2009 list laments, “People make up their own things and they just run with it.” The “comic” in him finds people’s fascination with his personal beliefs hilarious. Jeezy jokingly deadpans and admits that he’s “in” the “money gang” with Jay-Z.

Having previously experienced some collaboration beef with R. Kelly on the Best of Both Worlds: Volumes I & II, Hov is looking to take the Mob Squad project with Jeezy & Trey to the next level of “positivity” with their tour and forthcoming studio efforts. He points out his tour successes with Mary J. Blige, DMX & the Ruff Ryders, Method Man & Red Man, 50 Cent & G-Unit as his willingness and ability to produce a commercially viable vehicle.

The 25-year old, Grammy nominated Trey Songz is on his 3rd album, Young Jeezy is 5 years into the legal paper chasing “game” and on his 4th album under the House that Russell Built, Def Jam imprint. Each of them is a fan of not just the music, but of the movements that it has enabled them to individually create opening up the doors for their collective efforts on the Blueprint 3 tour. Each will play their positions on the tour: Jeezy brings the streets; Trey brings the youth energy and the ladies and Hov as the elder statesman solidifies the legendary status bringing that megastar wattage to the building.

( ( ( Just Thinking Out loud ) ) )

Where were the prophetic utterances prior to Tuesday’s earthquake in Haiti? Nowhere to be found. Of course they’ll come of the woodwork afterwards and try to cut & paste their theological ramblings to this tragedy now, but that’s just another sad commentary on those who have placed themselves in position of being the “faith mob” of religion. None of us is above or beyond reproach. Each of us will have to answer for our life pursuits. Let’s stop all this nonsense speculating about other people’s spiritual journey, especially since most of us have specks in our own eyes.

NOTE TO LAME CITIZEN JOURNALISTS (I mean "bloggers"): Youtube is a site that ANYONE can post practically ANYTHING to. That content is only vetted for pornographic content, etc. You can basically say whatever you want about anyone and someone with too much time on their hands and no life will believe it. WHY? Because they have no life. DO YOU ALREADY!!!

If this man is going to hell or any place else, that will be determined by the Most High, not you. You can try to hide inside your religious doctrines like the very Pharisees that Christ railed against (interesting isn't it...) or you can follow the example of Christ and come out and walk among the everyday people speaking in a common language to point them to the Most High. WAKE UP and stop being "so-and-so said" puppets for your pastors, imans, rabbis and other spiritual leaders. Your faith is YOUR responsibility. Seek God for yourself first and foremost, stop being misled by ignorance and bound in prejudice because you refuse to wake up. You are plugged into the Faithtrix that has rocked you asleep. WAKE UP...THE TRUTH RIGHT IN FRONT OF YOUR FACE!!! Stop waiting for God, because God is waiting for you to WAKE UP!!!

Got AIDS?

2010-01-13T08:28:00.000-08:00

By S-Dot for The S-Dot Files

Here's a wake up call for those of you that answered, "no!" without really knowing...

Just because someone looks F-I-N-E doesn’t mean they’re “just fine” and don’t have HIV, AIDS or any other STDs. Many people today despite the reality of the deadly consequences of promiscuity and indiscriminate sex continue to put themselves and their partners at risk by making non-thinking choices. Guys continue to go down on women they barely know. Women continue to let guys inside of them raw (without a condom) because “they don’t look sick.” There is a class of individuals that frequently find themselves incarcerated and make the “lack of access” excuse as a rationale for their sleeping with others of their same gender. These people then go on to infect others knowingly or otherwise.

( ( ( sDOTtv) ) ) now playing Girl with AIDS looks to INFECT men to get back at them!!!

If you have or suspect you maybe at risk for HIV, click by this website and educate yourself on your next step options - HIV Treatment Is Power!!!

I'm Just Not Feeling You

2010-01-07T08:18:00.000-08:00

By S-Dot for The S-Dot Files

This week's show is entitled "I'm Just Not Feeling You" join us Friday @ 10 p.m. - midnight on The BOOTY Call Show with S-Dot & Friends. We'll be discussing how to get rid of that people baggage as you embark on your 2010 journey.

( ( ( Special Show ) ) )
HANDLING YOUR BUSINESS – On this DYA! (do you already) special edition “Earn that BOOTY” (stop being a pirate) show S-Dot, the social media mogul will be sharing tips and advice on how-to navigate the social media marketplace building your personal and corporate brand with right now relevance. You’re going to need a notepad to take notes on this informative show that will equip, encourage and empower you to handle you business instead of allowing your business to handle you. Join S-Dot & special guests on Sunday, January 10th 2015 @ 8 – 9 p.m. (Eastern). Call-in 347.308.8527.

( ( ( sDOTtv ) ) ) now playing Billboard Q & A with Raphael Saadiq

Raphael Saadiq is an inspiring creative visionary that remains faithful to honing his skills as a songwriter, musician, vocalist, producer and performer.

Here’s a reposting from an e-mail I sent to 40 of my peops in July 23, 2009:

20/20 has shown me that in past relationships where I was unprepared to receive my partner as a blessing I resorted to self-destructive patterns. I would start irrational arguments, pull a disappearing act or become withdrawn for no reason at all. Of course it would infuriate me even more if my partner was caring enough to show me compassion when I felt overwhelmed by my feelings. There were times when I simply wanted to say, “I’m terrified of being in a relationship with you because I’m so screwed up. I keep waiting for you to wake up and realize that you deserve some more traditional-type dude.”

This was self-defeatism in practice.

Have you ever experienced emotional whiplash? Meeting the “right” person if you’re still the “wrong” person is like receiving a gift and then being cursed.

Being vulnerable can be terrifying when you’ve built up strongholds against transparency. I was in a dysfunctional coma for most of my past relationships, waking up to the possibilities of love oftentimes made me hesitant. Not because of what others weren’t doing, but rather because I have been conditioned to be overly suspicious of relationships since I functioned as a relational vampire (widow) relying on deceptive practices to beguile others. Entering the realm of romance requires you to depart the prison of circumstance. Many of us are so embittered by what’s happened to us that we lose sight of the blessing of the live-and-learn lessons.

“You should know what I like.” An assumptive phrase like this usually causes a person to shutdown. Why? Because it presupposes that the hearer “should know,” what they admittedly don’t know. This makes them feel negative about themselves because they are inadequate making them retreat from the conversation. Couples constantly work on preconceived notions expecting others to be mind readers and this is unfair. No one can “know” what you like 100% of the time, especially if you have communication issues. If you recognize that you had said things like this, check yourself. Don’t blame your partner for not knowing; take responsibility for you not showing them.

Don’t set unsustainable behavioral patterns. If you’re not into sports, don’t pretend to be into them just to make a favorable impression with someone you’re interested in dating. If you do this will eventually become a problematic area in which they feel misled by you. You can express an interest in sports, and even accompany them to games, but don’t pretend that’s an interest if it isn’t.

- From the forthcoming book, The Sojourner Truth Moment (RTK Communications)

The S-Dot Files Empowered U Library

VOLUME ONE // Exposing the Game: Learning How-to Stop Playing Yourself
VOLUME TWO // OVERCOMING the BOOTY: Breaking the Sex Hex
VOLUME THREE // The Sojourner Truth Moment
VOLUME FOUR // RESET the ATMOSPHERE: Putting Your Life in Order
VOLUME FIVE // You’ve Fallen, Now Get Up!
VOLUME SIX // WHEN? You’ve Talked About It, Now Be About It!
VOLUME SEVEN // Lost & Found: Becoming a Man of Purpose

End of Year Beatdowns!!!

2009-12-30T09:46:00.000-08:00

By S-Dot for The S-Dot Files

According to false reports in the New York Post, Queen of Hip Hop Soul Mary J. Blige was involved in a physical altercation with her husband, producer Kendu Isaacs. There have been unsubstantiated reports that Mary remarked to her husband, “What are you gonna do, Chris Brown me?” Wow, that’s illmatic! However, the Daily News has spoken with MJB’s publicist Karynne Tencer who confirmed that the singer was actually breaking up a fight between her husband and brother. There was no retraction printed by the New York Post for getting the facts wrong.

Here’s scenes from the event…

( ( ( sDOTtv ) ) ) now playing MJB the Release Party Altercation

When will the DOMESTIC VIOLENCE end?

Next, up producer Teddy Riley will be ineligible to attend the Real Dads Networks “Daddy Daughter Dance” on February 13, 2010 in NYC because he’s apparently --- NOT A GOOD DAD. The singer was arrested for beating his 18-year old daughter Taja Riley with an electric guitar.

Here are the Riley girls

Yes, an electric guitar. The dispute stems from his daughters being upset about the presence of about the presence of the 43-year old Teddy’s 21-year old 21-year old (same age as daughter Deja Riley) “golddigger” girlfriend. Here are some of the tweets from his two daughters.

So tweets...Ms. Deja

So tweets...Ms. Taja

Stay tuned for updates on tonight's show "Are You A Rooster?" (episode #25) on The BOOTY Call Show - Call-in 347.308.8527 @ 9 - 11pm (eastern).

The Vixen Chronicles...

2009-12-16T07:12:00.000-08:00

By S-Dot for The S-Dot Files

Hmmm...seems someone wants even more attention. Why does no one see that this young, confused woman's cry for attention is dysfunctional and she truly needs some help?

This isn't the behavior that you encourage of someone that's been a VICTIM it's the act of someone that wants to be idolized at all costs, even to the detriment of themselves. Let's stop looking the other way and recognize that this is a cry for intervention. Puhleeeeeeze!!!

Women you're not empowering yourself by reducing yourself to a jerk-off jumpoff in a men's magazine. You might think that you're gaining control, but you're actually compromising and monetizing your soul. You'll notice how she keeps making mention of others perceiving her as being in league with darkness lately, which is something that should make you pause and take notice of the reality that she's engaged in spiritual warfare, entombed in a mental prison and lashing out physically at her unaddressed demons. I sincerly pray that Rihanna comes to her senses and this senseless path that she's on ends soon. Let's learn from the examples of Aaliyah (notice what happened after she signed on to do that vampire role?) and Left Eye (notice the "manifestations" of paranormal entities she encountered just before her untimely demise?) tragedies when someone is putting themselves at risk. Puhleeeeze someone intervene.

In other news...

The Queen of Hip Hop Soul Mary J. Blige returns with her new album "Stronger With Each Tear" next week. Yipeee!!!

Niggativity: the Bondage of a Generation

2009-12-08T15:42:00.000-08:00

By S-Dot for The S-Dot Files

Click by to connect + reflect on The BOOTY Call Show presented by The S-Dot Files on BlogTalkRadio – Fridays, 10 p.m. – midnight (Eastern).

News from the Skinny Jeans War… “Elephants don’t swat flies” – R. Kelly in response to Trey Songz disses (Hmmm...)

Did you miss last week’s show? Well, now you can download Niggativity: The Bondage of a Generation? (episode #22) and the archives to your desktop, iPod and other mobile devices to listen at your convenience That’s right, you can hear it and share it with others.

I had an engaging conversation with motivational authors Corey Washington (“Plain Talk: Everything You Ever and Never Wanted to Know About Racism” a poignant examination of the social musings about race), Hasheem Francis (“Built to Prosper” a wealth-builders empowerment tool) and writer/poet Young Jonesy joined in as well to share some real talk about how the ‘MJB Syndrome’ has impacted the mindset of women in the Black community and the ‘Spirit of G-Money’ has possessed Black men standing around on the intersections of love + life. The chat room was alive with some thought-provoking conversation as well on the socio-political issues of the N-word and the racial identity crisis of this generation.

Click by to connect + reflect on The BOOTY Call Show hosted by inspiring author, motivational speaker and empowerment coach S-Dot presented by The S-Dot Files on BlogTalkRadio – Fridays, 10 p.m. – midnight (Eastern).

You need this book!!!

www.PlainTalk2010.com
Get Your copy of Plain Talk: Volume 1 - ISBN 13 (TP): 978-1-4415-9342-9 & ISBN 13 (HB): 978-1-4415-9343-6

If you want a book faster send a $15 dollar money order (paperback only) to: Corey Washington 2812 Joy Rd., Apt #36 Augusta, GA 30909. This covers the book plus shipping and handling.

Or you can PayPal $15 dollars to: plaintalk2010@yahoo.com (Make sure you send your shipping address)

www.HasheemFrancis.com
To find out more about Built to Prosper and upcoming Loyal Leadership events.

Would you like to be featured on The BOOTY Call Show? Send an e-mail of interest that includes your bio and mp3 to The Dot Team: thesdotfiles@gmail.com of your informational content (music, interview, etc.).

Keeping it 100: Do You Already!

2009-12-04T08:06:00.000-08:00

By S-Dot for The S-Dot Files

( ( ( Now Hear This ) ) )

Peops,

I just wanted to post this blog announcement for tonight's show (episode #20) at 10 p.m. - midnight (eastern) entitled, "Keeping it 100" which is based upon my forthcoming eBook of the same name that debuts in January 2010 on RTK Communications (stay tuned for details). Here's the books table of contents:

KEEPING IT 100: Being Your Authentic Self by Shaam S-Dot Jones

10 FACE OFF Looking in the Mirror

20 YOU DOWN WITH OPP? Other People’s Problems

30 SWAGGER v. SUBSTANCE Beyond the Smoke and Mirrors

40 WHY YOU’RE STILL NOT MARRIED From a Hoe to a Housewife

50 METOX: Get Over Yourself Already!

60 THE RULE OF K.I.M. The Keeping it Moving Principle

70 DON’T STOP THE LOVE Developing a Hi-Hater Plan

80 NOW THAT’S REAL TALK Got Questions? Get Answers

90 GETTING YOUR MIND RIGHT The Empowerment Tool Box

96 S-DOT SPEAKS Interview with an MVP of the Game

ON TONIGHT'S TALK MENU...

“My minds telling me no, but my body’s telling me yes. I don’t see nothing wrong with a little bump-n-grind.” – R. Kelly

1. Last night, I had to break up a real-life Chris & Rhianna drama, so of course you know we'll be talking about that and the recent "Tiger Woods" drama too. It's going to be real talk. The gloves are off, it's time to have some no holds barred conversation about passive-aggressive women and abusive men embroiled in narcissistic relationships that are dysfunctional. Let's continue last show's "Domestic Silence" dialogue (go back and listen to episode #19 in the archives)

Real Talk: If you want to get married, you need to work on being single.

2. We'll have some movie therapy using the film "Not Easily Broken" starring Morris Chestnut & Taraji P. Henson which deals with a couple at a crossroad when her mama won't stay out of their business. Are you down with O.P.P.? - Other People's Problems? Listen in and learn how-to mind your business and focus on getting your mind right.

Name five movies that inspire you:

1. ____________________________________________________________________________

2. ____________________________________________________________________________

3. ____________________________________________________________________________

4. ____________________________________________________________________________

5. ____________________________________________________________________________

Name the movie that best describes your life:

______________________________________________________________________________

3. Do you need a Metox? Is it time for you to get over yourself? We'll be sharing some practical tips and insights on how-to get to next-level in your personal development.

THIS WEEK'S EMPOWERMENT TIP:

Stop handcuffing those trying to get free. If you don’t want to be with them, let them go so they can grow. There’s no need to hate on them.

4. We'll delve into our Now That's Real Talk - got questions? get answers segment. Here's tonight's question:

Dear S-Dot,

I can’t stop thinking about an abortion I had when I was 16. It’s been over 12 years, but I still keep dwelling on it. Every year I have nightmares around the time of what would’ve been my due date and this has been an issue in getting close to others. My fiancé says he wants kids, but I feel like I don’t deserve to be a mother. I haven’t shared this with him. Any thoughts how I can get past this?

What advice would you give this person? Join us in the chat room or call-in to share your thoughts. Help a sister out!

Feel free to forward this to others (hint, hint - smile) and I look forward to speaking with you tonight at 10 p.m. - midnight (eastern) on The BOOTY Call Show presented by The S-Dot Files exclusively on BlogTalkRadio.

The BOOTY Call Show’s mission is to free the lame from being pawns in the Game by sharing the explicit truth about love + life with those who’ve been played, and are ready to discover the tools and unspoken “rules” of relationships.

Are You Stuck in the Friend Zone?

Tired of Being a “Benefit”?

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HAPPY 40TH BIRTHDAY to Shawn Corey Carter at Jay-Z the "other S-Dot" welcome to the 40/40 club playboy. To all the S-Dot haters, "Do You Already!"

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S-Dot is an accomplished, word-of-mouth savvy branding consultant who has developed strategic initiatives for starts up and global Fortune 1000s. His tactical campaigns have been instrumental in launching and remixing entrepreneurs and organizations to speak with right now relevance in the social media marketplace.

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"And because of His Words many more became believers." - John 4:41

Let's End the Domestic Silence

2009-11-25T07:13:00.000-08:00

( ( ( sDOTcast ) ) ) now playing Rihanna on Good Morning America Interview

Rihanna's interview on Good Morning America

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By S-Dot for The S-Dot Files

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Happy Thanksgiving,

You have so much to be thankful for. Don’t you?

Join us this Friday, November 27th @ 10 p.m. – midnight (eastern) for episode #19 “Domestic Silence” on The BOOTY Call Show with S-Dot & Friends. We’ll be discussing the current state of relationships between men & women.

Has a “mouth” problem led to a “hand” problem? Suffering from the MJBs? Are you in a verbal or physically abusive relationship? Let’s keep it REAL talk.

“How you gonna win when you ain’t right within?” – Lauryn Hill, Doo Wop (That Thing)

( ( ( sDOTtv ) ) ) now playing Chris Brown on The Wendy Williams Show

LET’S END THE DOMESTIC SILENCE…
Many guys today are being henpecked by emasculating women with “mouth” problems that have been socialized to believe they need to conceal a man’s testicles in their purses in order to gain control of him. This has led to countless men running in the opposite direction, tuning them out entirely (notice the rise of skinny jeans wearers), and sadly in some cases developing “hand” problems in response to this abusive behavior. It’s time to end the ‘domestic silence’ in our relationships and have REAL talk about REAL things with REAL people.

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Dial 347.308.8527 from your mobile, home or office and press “1” to share your thoughts.

If you or someone you know is involved in an abusive relationship, get help now! Contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1.800.799.SAFE (7233) 1.800.787.3224 (TTY) - it's anonymus & confidential.

FYI: Web Safety Guidelines
If you bookmark this or any other site about domestic violence, the fact that you've been seeking information or help may be discovered by someone you prefer didn't know. So as a safeguard, you may either want to 1) access this site from somewhere other than home; or 2) clear all cache, cookies and history files from your web browser.

See the helpful information below and follow the instructions for eliminating traces of your visit to this website.

Cookies and cache
Temporary Internet files, or cache, contain a "travel record" of the items you have seen, heard, or downloaded from the web, including images, sounds, web pages, even cookies. Cookies are cryptic bookmarks that a website can place on your computer to acknowledge your prior visit, authenticate your access or let you continue surfing a site from where you last left off. They can leave a trail of evidence of where you have been on the web. So if you visit a website on domestic violence and a cookie is created, others can trace your trail and discover where you've been.

Clear the cache for Internet Explorer 6
1. Click "Start" and select "Control Panel." (Note: With Windows XP Classic View click the Windows "Start" button and select "Settings" and "Control Panel").
2. Open the "Internet Options" icon.
3. Click the "General" tab if it isn't selected already.
4. Under the heading "Temporary Internet files," click "Delete Files...".
5. Click "OK" to exit.

Clear cookies for Internet Explorer 6
1. Click "Start" and select "Control Panel." (Note: Windows XP Classic View click the Windows "Start" button and select "Settings" and "Control Panel").
2. Open the "Internet Options" icon.
3. Click the "General" tab if it isn't selected already.
4. Under the heading "Temporary Internet files," click on "Delete Cookies...".
5. Click "OK" for the "Delete all cookies in the Temporary Internet Files folder?" prompt.
6. Click "OK" to exit.

SOURCE: http://www.domesticviolencecenter.org/links-and-resources/web-safety.htm

Are You Wearing A Wire?

2009-11-18T07:32:00.000-08:00

By S-Dot for The S-Dot Files

A lot of people can benefit from paying attention to the mistakes of others. Mr. Magic used to famously say on the Rap Attack, "A wise man learns from a fool." If you're in fool's paradise or watching someone else who is PAY ATTENTION.

Don't be a lame, peep Game. The Game don't stop just because you take off your uniform, hang up your glove or decide you to don't want to play anymore.

( ( ( sDOTtv ) ) ) now playing The Wire "100 Greatest Quotes"

On this week's show (episode #18) on The BOOTY Call Show the topic will be "Domestic Silence" that's right, we're going there. Join us this Friday at 10 p.m. - midnight (eastern). Call-in 347.308.8527 click by The BOOTY Call Show with S-Dot on BlogTalkRadio.

Mary J. Blige Syndrome

2009-11-05T14:37:00.000-08:00

By S-Dot for The S-Dot Files

Are you still searching for a real love? Do you just want to be happy? Perhaps you're finally just fine now that you've grown stronger. Well, on tomorrow night's The BOOTY Call Show we'll be discussing Exposing the Game's chapter, "MJB Syndrome."

Join us for REAL talk with REAL people about REAL things.

And now without further ado...the undisputable Queen of Hip Hop Soul...

( ( ( sDOTtv ) ) ) now playing Mary J. Blige "National Anthem @ Game 6"

Lessons From the Well

2009-10-29T10:44:00.001-07:00

By S-Dot for The S-Dot Files

On this week's show (episode #14) join us for "Down With O.P.P." a real-talk discussion on love + life this Friday, October 30th at 10:00 p.m. - midnight.

( ( ( sDOTtv ) ) ) now playing Beverly B Woman at the Well

If you are at the "well" of life, don't let others block your blessings in the lessons that your lived experiences can teach you and others. Don't be ashamed of your journey, claim your future.

Single And Loving It...Kinda Sort Of (lol)

2009-10-18T17:36:00.000-07:00

By S-Dot for The S-Dot Files

Okay, today's the ANNIVERSARY. Yeah, me. Go me.

Had to cancel Friday's show because a leadership meeting ran later than expected, but it was worth it. So, now tonight's show is to make up for Friday's and my homie author, overcomer Kimberly L. Scott (Product of Grace) will be co-hosting with me. Hope you can click by and weigh in @ 9 p.m. Call-in 347.308.8527 to share your thoughts.

( ( ( sDOTtv ) ) ) now playing Throw’D TV “Facebook Breakups”

Have you been LOLing with someone else? Are you checking their status updates daily? Right clicking and saving their pics?

Yep, you’re having a virtual affair. Don’t deny, all anyone has to do is read those comments.

You should be ashamed of yourself. Never even met them and you’re being such an eHo.

( ( ( sDOTtv ) ) ) now playing Confessions of a Caramel Goddess “Hair It Is”

It’s not you, it’s your hair style. No seriously, it’s your hair style.
If you want that bi-racial look to your hair, this is a very good instructional video from Ms. Jennifer Kemp, a sister that’s practical and informative. I think it’s great who real she keeps it with making sure the process incorporates cost-conscious products. Now, you’ve got no more excuses for looking tore up from the floor. Step your game up.

( ( ( sDOTtv ) ) ) now playing Confessions of a Caramel Goddess “I’m Single Because?”

Are you also tired of talking about your singleness? There’s really nothing that we have to make excuses for. We’re enjoying our alone time before we have to be considerate and mindful of having a partner. That time will come in its due season. To rush to get into it without coming to an appreciation for your singleness will usually result in that person being a “single-married man/woman.” They will be discontent where they end up feeling as if they’ve settled and they’re missing out on something. Therefore, it’s essential that each of us appreciate our singleness. As Jennifer says: “Be content where you are, and happy where you are.”

Who is Jennifer Kemp? She’s a fashionista that attends the Fashion Institute of Technology in NYC, her style and influence are glam rock and rocker chic that candidly shares her stitch and seam visions and dreams in the blogosphere on youtube and wordpress.

When Real People Talk Fake People Walk

2009-10-16T14:26:00.000-07:00

By S-Dot for The S-Dot Files

As you can see The BOOTY Call Show now has a swanky new logo thanks to a collab with my dude JQ from PartyZone.us (good look).

It's great when you can call someone and tell them you need something and they say, "come through, let's get it done." Unlike the haters that always try to run your clock. They'll make promises like, "okay, I'll call you back..." and then you don't hear from until you leave them 3 messages and happen to bump into them someplace. Of course the first thing out of their mouth usually is, "...I got your messages..." which is probably why your mind wonders, "so if you got them, why the hell didn't you return them?" But nonetheless, you watch them fidget around and shift their weight to their right heel, while averting direct eye contact.

TRANSLATION: they're lying.

And it's not even like you're buying it, it's just that...I'm saying. I totally had a point in the beginning of this and then my fingers just kept typing as if I was speaking out loud. I'm not going to delete/edit this. I'm just going to leave it. You see when you're really doing you, you don't worry if others get it - you've got it. It's not that you're on your own d*ck, but rather you're not on anyone elses.

You feel me?

Okay, I've got a meeting to get to in 90 minutes, a show to do in 4 hours and I still don't know what I'm talking about. Imagine that... Hey, I may just play music. You never know. Anyway, tonight on The BOOTY Call Show is episode #12 and it's entitled, "Can We Talk?" This is inspired in part by my co-moderating a discussion next week at EBC. I'll definitely let you know how that goes... Here's the flyer.

Cool huh? Yep, so it's going to be real talk with singles and couples discussing the challenges of waiting, dating and mating in an open forum. I promise to not hog the mic and listen reflectively, exercise restraint and utilize discernment. Seriously, I do. No, seriously I do. LOL

Don't forget, tonight's the night on The BOOTY Call Show @ 10 p.m. - midnight.

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Know Thyself

2009-10-15T10:06:00.001-07:00

By S-Dot for The S-Dot Files

Did you know that the reason some people are pains in the *ss is because they're really afflicted with parasites? Seriously, the average person is totally ignorant of the necessity of total wellness because we've been conditioned to rely on healthcare rather than practice self-care.

In the book, "Exposing the Game: Learning How-to Stop Playing Yourself" I delve into a process of removing the physical, emotional and spiritual parasites from your life throughout the book. It's a very thought-provoking dialogue which took many years to research.

Parasites use a Trojan horse plan of attack

This illustration shows how parasites contribute to the formulation of Malaria.

The parasite of religosity is also very dangerous

This is why it's essential that each of us be mindful about the spiritual coverings we submit and commit to ensuring they are in alignment with the Most High, not merely those who have call themselves to laud over others.

What are you giving birth to?

The above is from a person who had a uterine fibroid removed which also spring forth from parasite.

Know thy self...indeed.

Still Moooonnnkeying Around...

2009-10-12T23:31:00.000-07:00

By S-Dot for The S-Dot Files

Hmm...this doll could be endorsed by the "Boss" rapper William Leonard "Rick Ross" Roberts II who's also fond of calling black people "moooooonnnnkey" as he repeatedly said to 50 Cent during their recent beef in which he got pummeled into virtual obscurity. So, if we're going to get mad about Costco selling lil' monkey dolls, get mad about Rick Ross and stop giving him a pass because you nod your head to his music. It's terrible that they would put out a product like this, but its hypocritical for us to get upset about them and then not deal with our own. Remember, Rick Ross began making those mooooooooonnnnnkey" comments mere days after the cartoon illustration depicting President Obama as a monkey. Let's stop the double-standards. If it's wrong for "them" it's wrong for "us" too.

Let's end the mongrelization of ALL people of color by ALL people.

Stop monkeying around people. Get Your Mind Right, it's not a Game out here. On this week's The BOOTY Call Show we're going to be doing it a little different. Stay tuned for details during the week.

In the meantime, and in between time, check out last Friday's show episode #10, "Reclaiming Your Personal Power" and don't forget to peep the archives to catch up.

Tramp

2009-10-08T14:34:00.000-07:00

Got ho self-esteem? Here's a flashback from the past.

( ( ( sDOTtv ) ) ) now playing Salt-n-Pepa "Tramp"

( ( ( sDOTtv ) ) ) now playing Shawty Put f/Lil Jon "Dat Baby"

WHY ARE YOU STILL SINGLE?

2009-10-07T05:55:00.000-07:00

Just because some call you unapproachable, doesn’t mean you’re not coachable.

By S-Dot for The S-Dot Files

Sometimes we become stagnant in our growth because we don’t reexamine our approach to personal development. We change people, places and things, but until we commit to change ourselves, we’ll keep ending up with the same results. Ask yourself: whose baggage am I carrying?

You’re a Pigeon
Keep it 100 – you’re no swan or dove, especially when surrounded by your bird brain entourage of cluck heads. “If you’re an eagle, stop hanging out with pigeons,” is what I tell singles that desire to get to the next-level in love + life.

You’re A Lemon Head
If people nicknamed your street Sour Patch Lane that’s an indicator that you need to stop being so bitter and focus on becoming better. The only one that want to hang out with misery is…misery.

You Talk Too Much
If you’re always talking that’s a telling sign you’re not a good listener. Sure we all can get chatty sometimes, but you have learn to appreciate having a Jodeci moment – Don’t talk…Just listen.

You’re A Ho
Hey, if that’s who and what you are – be and do you. However, someone that desires a housewife would be unwise to get involved with you will you’re still in your ho season exhibiting ho self-esteem.

Until next time…Be 100% authentically Y-O-U!

Reclaiming Your Personal Power

2009-10-06T08:14:00.000-07:00

It's time to reclaim your personal power today!

By S-Dot for The S-Dot Files

Recently, I began challenging the life-limiting double standards that are in man-to-woman relationships leading to many men surrendering their personal power to women by being manipulated into having sexual relationships. I’ve been a guest and sharer on a number of shows on waiting, dating and mating issues. Here’s an exchange from one this week where the topic was “Is it Difficult to Be Celibate & Should Black Women Date Outside of Their Race?”

S-Dot on Talk About It Today! With Mo Stegall on BlogTalkRadio 10/5/09 show

S-Dot: When I made that decision (to get my mind right), that decision, although I was attending church and so forth, that wasn’t about church. That was about me deciding that I wasn’t going to allow some woman to kill me with a disease. And when I got to that point in my growth, I recognized that a lot of the sex that I was having, I wasn’t having actual intimacy. It was just a lot of sex. And I won’t stand here and act like it was terrible because while I was doing it, it was a good time.

Mo Stegall: You enjoyed every bit of it!

S-Dot: Absolutely! But one of the best things that I know and I recognize where I am right now, is that, when I removed having all the sexual activity with women, I began to gain a lot of clarity in terms of my relationships. So, you know…BBD has the song, “You can’t trust a big butt and a smile that girl is poison”

Mo Stegall: You got that right.

S-Dot: Well, now I’m better able to see those who are poisonous. You know it’s interesting because…you know, I’m far from an unattractive man, and I meet a lot of women, and the women that I meet they immediately want to try to have sex. And when I tell them you know, “I’m not interested in that,” the first thing out of their mouth is, “are you gay?”

Mo Stegall: Right.

S-Dot: And it’s a question of my manhood. However, when a woman makes a decision about going through a period of celibacy, whether it’s until she’s married, or it’s because she’s at a point where she wants to get her mind right – that question isn’t there. But when a man does that, it’s all of a sudden a matter of challenging his manhood. So, why do you think that is?

Check out the rest of the show...( ( ( Hear it Yourself ) ) )

Stay tuned for Episode #10 of The BOOTY Call Show on Blog Talk Radio
On this empowering show inspiring author, motivational speaker and empowerment coach S-Dot will share his intuitive insights and lived-and-learned wisdom from "Exposing the Game" on love + life with singles and couples that are ready to get to the next-level in their relationships by reclaiming their personal power. Grab a pen and pad to take notes it's going to be an informative show of transformational conversation with some surprise guests. Friday, October 9th at 10 p.m. Call-in to share your thoughts from your mobile, home or office phone 347.308.8527

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Funeral Arrangements for John "Mr. Magic" Rivas (R.I.P.) will be this Thursday, October 8th at 10 a.m.

Where: St. Barbara’s Roman Catholic Church, 138 Bleeker St (Bet Central & Wilson Ave) - Bushwick, Bklyn

Swag v. Substance

2009-09-30T12:26:00.000-07:00

( ( ( Let’s Keep it Real Talk ) ) )

Peops,

Take a look around, there are countless people – young and old – who think just because they have swagger they don't have to graduate to having actual substance.

For example, in recent months we've witnessed the implosion of swaggerific rapper William "Rick Ross" Leonard Roberts II in his outrageous "beef" with hip-hop titan Curtis "50 Cent" Jackson. Rick Ross assumed that just because he hid behind shades and makes head nodding music that would distract audiences from some very serious character challenges; like being a deadbeat dad, repeatedly misleading others about his past and wearing knockoff LV shades claiming they're custom-made only to get blown up by the manufacturer. WTF!

Has swagger replaced substance? Has faking it replaced making it?

These days it seems like "swagger" has become the new "cool." But are people hiding behind faking it to keep from actually making it? On the next show (episode #8) S-Dot & Ms. Indi will be discussing Swagger v. Substance to examine what's really going on or going wrong with today's consciously social community. We'll be sharing some tips on how to stop being lame to actually mastering "the rules" and winning the Game. Join us on Friday, Oct 2 @ 10 p.m. (Eastern) call-in to share your thoughts at 347.308.8527.

HATER ADVISORY - This show is for REAL people, about REAL things, move fakers are strongly cautioned it's going to be REAL talk.

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To listen from your mobile, home or office phone call 347.308.8527. Just press #1 to raise your hand and become part of the conversation.

Peep Game - New Episode

2009-09-22T20:52:00.000-07:00

( ( ( Now Exposing the Game ) ) )

What it do peops?

Had a very lively show this evening on BlogTalkRadio the topic was "Peep Game" and weighing in was my dude filmmaker/music producer Kenny Dynamite Hassell, as well as author, speaker and empowerment coach Hasheem Francis, my joan (homie) Kiran and 2wo (one of the divine 9ine women that taught me the guiding principles of my life). She also overshared my business (lol).

The conversation was pretty interesting. Click by and listen into the archives (episode #6 yourself), also "When Keeping It Real Goes Wrong" (episode #5) and "The Ex Factor" (episode #4) are worth checking out as well. Share your thoughts and feedback and thanks for listening.

Author, Speaker, Empowerment Coach

Shaam S-Dot Jones

The S-Dot Files

( ( ( www.blogtalkradio.com/thesdotfiles ) ) )

My co-host Ms. Indi the FemBot just put me onto this DVD a few days ago. It sounds pretty interesting.

( ( ( sDOTtv ) ) ) now playing Traci Townsend

A life-changing, provocative book, EXPOSING THE GAME introduces the “secret” rules to those that have been played. With man-to-man talk, brotherly advice to women, EXPOSING THE GAME is perfect for couples just getting started or trying to make sense of the mess they’ve made of their relationships.

Get healed and be delivered.

The S-Dot Files is a total wellness empowerment platform powered by social media infotainment featuring advice-driven content that provides practical tips and thought-provoking insights on topic such as; family, faith, relationships, finances and more. With helpful resources for everyday people, like you!

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Peep Game

2009-09-22T13:34:00.000-07:00

By S-Dot for The S-Dot Files

On tonight's episode (#6) of The BOOTY Call Show we'll be delving into "that thang" you know the one you let hit it...that never call you again? Okay, here's a reminder since you're frontin'.

( ( ( sDOTtv ) ) ) now playing Lauryn Hill "Doo Wop"

Remember, now? Thought so. It's going to be a thought-provoking conversation. Yep, even a ex or two will be weighing in. Join me and my co-host Ms. Indi the FemBot tonight at 8 p.m. (Eastern) on The S-Dot Files Radio on BlogTalkRadio call in 347.308.8527 or listen LIVE and chat.

( ( ( Hater Advisory ) ) ) This show is for REAL people doing REAL things. If you’re a move faker and keep it less than 100 this show may not be for you.

Kanye Gets *ssed Out by Obama

2009-09-16T07:51:00.000-07:00

By S-Dot for The S-Dot Files

Here's Kanye & Amber Rose backstage, I guess he'll "blame it on Henny..."

Peops,

Of course this week's The BOOTY Call Show will be delving into "When Keeping Real Goes Real Wrong" in response to recent overshares from Rep Joe Wilson (R-S.C.) on 9/9/09 in Congress in which he rebuked the president with "You lie!" and Kanye West on 9/12/09 at the VMAs making himself the awards police.

WARNING: Before you run your mouth...have a Jodeci moment - Don't talk...just listen. You'll save yourself lots of humiliation.

WHAT IS A NARCISSIST?
Take a gander at Kanye West. He epitomizes this disorder in every aspect. The egomaniacal ranting, and self-centeredness at every opportunity to make a public spectacle of himself. He a raging narcissist that’s clearly ready to crash and burn. His winner-hating display against Taylor Swift at the 2009 VMAs is a clear example of what happens when keeping it real goes too far.

Click by his site: www.KanyeUniversity.com to take a gander.

On his site he arrogantly displays every single cover he’s been on. It’s nothing wrong with being proud of one’s accomplishment, however with Kanye you can discern that he’s thumbing his nose at naysayers rather than relishing his accolades. It is this love/hate relationship with the limelight that has endured him for years to fans who until now gave his antics a pass. That pass has now been revoked.

Terry Moran a correspondent for ABC tweeted that president Obama called Kanye a “jackass” off the record while being interviewed by CNBC. Wow! That’s when you know you’re being put on blast when you’ve got B.O. P.O’d at you.

Here’s a clear indication when you’ve been put on ( ( ( blast ) ) )

Q: Were your girls as hacked off as mine were that Kanye gave Taylor Swift the Joe Wilson treatment?
Obama: I thought that was really inappropriate. You know it was like she's (Taylor Swift) getting an award -- why are you (Kanye West) butting in? I, I hear you -- I agree with you.
Q: So does that count as the first question?
Obama: The young lady seems like a perfectly nice person. She's getting her award. What's he doing up there? He's a jackass. (Laughter) No, now -- this -- all this stuff -- I'm assuming all this stuff. Where's the pool? Come on guys. Cut the president some slack. I got a lot of other stuff on my plate. Yeah. Cause I remember last time it was the fly thing. Now that was the highlight of (trails off)

( ( ( sDOTtv ) ) ) now playing Obama calls Kanye a Jackass

DEFINITIVELY SPEAKING – there’s a new term added to the hip-hop lexicon for playing ones self, “You totally Kanye’d that.”

Kanye – to make buffoonish, unsolicited comments while intoxicated with narcissism in total disregard of others because you’re an attention-whore desiring all praise all the time.

TWEETOLOGY (APOLOGY VIA TWITTER)

There's hope for Kanye. Let's all be REAL we've played ourselves too! Let's keep it REAL talk.

Join my co-host Indi the FemBot and I on the next episode of The BOOTY Call Show as we keep it REAL talk with advice and tips for getting rid of your haters. Click by to connect + reflect www.BlogTalkRadio.com/thesdotfiles where you can chat LIVE or call-in from your home, work or mobile phone 347.308.8527 to listen and join in the conversation. Check out the archives.

( ( ( Hater Advisory ) ) ) This show is for REAL people doing REAL things. If you’re a move faker and keep it less than 100 this show may not be for you.

The Vapors

2009-09-03T07:12:00.000-07:00

Peops,

Click by and join me and my special guests on The BOOTY Call Show for a lively discussion on "The Vapors" on this week's show on BlogTalkRadio.

Got Played? On this episode inspiring author, motivational speaker, empowerment coach S-Dot will be joined by special guests to discuss “the Vapors” that moment when you get some get back on somebody that tried to play you. Join us Friday, Sept 4 @ 10 p.m. – 12:00 a.m. as we connect + reflect with REAL talk from REAL people about how-to handle it when you’ve been played and finally get an opportunity to have your “hi-haters!” moment.

Call in and join the conversation: 347.308.308-8527 or click by and chat LIVE!

( ( ( sDOTtv ) ) ) now playing Biz Markie "The Vapors" (Live)

Tips on Dating & Mating

2009-08-23T21:07:00.000-07:00

For this blog, I'd like to share some personal insights and observations that I've included in singles and couples seminars. I've recently come across a book that outlined many of the things that I've been sharing with people for years and I was pleasantly surprised by the author's similarity in thinking.

5 Steps of Dating & Mating
1. Being friends – hangout in the neighborhood with the types you want in your life
2. Dating non-committed – take stock of the landscape without limiting your opinions
3. Dating exclusively – lay the foundation, but don’t behave as if you’re married
4. Engagement – discuss your building plans for a life together
5. Marriage – add the additional rooms; learn to love and grow

Write Your 3 Lists
1. Must-haves (Chill)
2. Compromises (Hmm…)
3. Hell Naws (Run!)

Whatever is on your heart or mind should be on these lists. It’s not shallow to have a preference, so stand on your truth. Be honest about what it is you desire, and remember these lists are about you gaining clarity. They’ll be very helpful towards you vision casting for the life you want. Don’t be stingy, be specific.

Be honest about your dating others, but sparing of the details during those dates. Use discretion, and do not intentionally overshare inflicting hurtfulness onto others.

If you don’t feel comfortable enough to admit to the life you’re living aside from your dating that person, you should reconsider why you’re dating them. Anyone that tries to accelerate the process passive-aggressively or otherwise should be addressed and removed if necessary. If they don’t know how to be your friend, don’t let them pretend they’re you’re partner.

Remember, you’re ideal partner is someone that’s ready, willing and available to be your friend. Don’t allow people to cage you into corners and use a smoother method to bewitch you into continuing with your life while you’re still getting to know one another. Do not place yourselves in compromising situations which will cloud your ability to objectively discern this individual’s truth absent of physicality and inappropriate emotional bonding.

This week on The S-Dot Files Radio we'll be discussing love + life issues delving into the how-tos for deciding when its time to take your relationship to the next level. Join us for a lively discussion Thursdays @ 11 p.m. (eastern) on BlogTalkRadio click by www.blogtalkradio.com/thesdotfiles and call-in to share 347.308.8527 on The BOOTY Call Show.

This blog content was inspired in part by The Five Phases of Dating, by Anita Charlot

Fembots...The Perfect Woman?

2009-07-31T07:17:00.001-07:00

By S-Dot for The S-Dot Files

Are you still searching for the elusive "The One"? Join the club. LOL I thought this was a sad usage of technology + sex = sexology. A Fembot, which is a feminized robot (gynoid) that provides "assistance" to male in search of sex without the hassle of an actual relationship.

Now, you too can objectify women in a whole new Stepford Wives 2.0 way. That's right get your Fembot, you poor, lonely bastard!!!

( ( ( sDOTtv ) ) ) now playing Fembots “The Perfect Woman?”

Fembots give a whole new meaning to the term: Man in the machine (lol).

What Not To Do In An Interview

2009-07-23T08:02:00.000-07:00

By S-Dot for The S-Dot Files

( ( ( sDOTtv ) ) ) now playing Karrine Steffans “The Vixen Manual”

This is clearly an example of poor media coaching. Every author should know that teleprompter readers usually don’t have the time to read their books cover-to-cover and should not go postal because of that. Focus! This is an interview to promote your book, not be “offended” because someone doesn’t read your book.

Karrine needs a PR Manual because she’s an interviewer’s nightmare with that brattitude. Grow up, this is the publishing game – stop pushing your “complete guide and manual” without thinking that you’ll be asked about the actual content. If your book is packaged in a way that prevents it from being properly scrutinized by viewers who are your intended readership, it’s the interviewer’s job to delve into the content. Duh!

And lastly, NEVER tell an interviewer they aren’t “asking intelligent questions” or you can expect your book to be a dud. And you’ll end up being characterized as, “a rump shaker in a bunch of videos.” Ouch!

Until next time...work on your interviewing techniques peops.

Is that Cheechos in those Jeans?

2009-07-06T14:57:00.000-07:00

By S-Dot for The S-Dot Files

Have you ever noticed that unsightly gathering of blubber that is rising above the waistlines of people's jeans? Well, that's called cheechos, and it's getting out of control. If you have that 'muffin top' of flab, it's time to go to the gym.

RULE OF TUM: If your belly protrudes as much as your booty, you need to workout and reconsider that outfit.

This fashion advisory has been brought to you by The S-Dot Files - govern yourselves accordingly.

The Tribute to the King

2009-07-03T10:34:00.000-07:00

This video montage set to "Who's Loving You" is a brillant time capsule of the incomparable legend of the man that broke the barriers of sound in music - Michael Jackson.

( ( ( sDOTtv ) ) ) now playing Michael Jackson Tribute

1958 - 2009 (Gone too soon) Farewell brother Michael Joseph Jackson

You are going to die. It doesn’t matter if the world knows your name; you’re still going to die. People can walk around with your image emblazoned on t-shirts and memorabilia; you’re still going to die. You can have a roomful of awards and expressions of recognition; you’re still going to die.

Just ask Michael Jackson.

- Excerpt from the forthcoming still untitled book on RTK Communications (stay tuned...)

So It Begins...

2009-06-29T07:21:00.000-07:00

By S-Dot for The S-Dot Files

Wanted to share this clip from last night's BET Awards show in LA with Joe Jackson, Michael's father doing an on-camera interview that is both sad and weird. It's strange to see Mr. Jackson plug his recording ventures and elude to business matters during such a time as this. Of course we all grieve differently, but when the publicist reads that bland statement I really felt so profoundly sadden by this display of spin control.

( ( ( sDOTtv ) ) ) now playing BET Awards "Joe Jackson"

Is it me or does Joe Jackson bear a strange resemblance to 'Blackula'? (Hey, don't get mad at me for having eyes)

I'll of course have much more to say on this ongoing series of events. Stay tuned...

Michael Jackson - Music of The Icon

2009-06-26T14:22:00.000-07:00

By S-Dot The S-Dot Files

Here's my imeem.com/thesdotfiles playlist dedicated to Michael Jackson. I hope you enjoy this sampling of some of his most memorable moments in music.

( ( ( sDOTcast ) ) ) now playing Michael Jackson "The Icon"

MJJ - Living Icon

Farewell Michael Joseph Jackson, I pray that you find favor and grace in your final resting place.

A Song for Taylor & Indi

2009-06-18T06:50:00.000-07:00

By S-Dot for The S-Dot Files

( ( ( sDOTcast ) ) ) now playing The Whitehead Bros. "Beautiful Black Princess"

Beatiful Black Princess - Whitehead Brothers

Before I Let You Go

2009-06-17T09:15:00.000-07:00

By S-Dot for The S-Dot Files

( ( ( sDOTtv ) ) ) now playing BlackStreet “Happy Home”

17 Happy Home.wma - BlackStreet

Click by and check out the playlists today!

CAUTION: This book will cause cheaters to panic and sleepers to wake up!

Just because you have it going on sexually, doesn’t mean you can’t be hurt emotionally. In fact, when I tied my self-worth to my sexual identity is when I was wounded the most severe.

I once dated this med student (“B”) that was unquestionably wife-material, but I still wasn’t husband-ready. We both knew and discussed that upfront. She saw “something special” in me and wanted to just “chill” until I opened my eyes. Of course being a player, I had no problem “running the clock,” which is what players do when they waste someone’s time with no intention of allowing them to actually score a commitment (win).

Anyway, we had romantic dinners. There were many nights when we simply just watched videos or listened to old school CDs singing along being silly sipping white zifandel. I spent intimate evenings reading to her when it rained, which calmed her down because she hated the thunder and would cry when she saw lightning. We shopped together and did one another’s weekly laundry. Went to family functions together. Eventually, we visited one another’s relatives, even in the hospital.

My family elders counseled, “Boy, don’t you screw this up.”

I was diggin’ her and totally intimidated by the feelings she inspired in me. I felt myself getting dizzy and starting to swoon when we kissed at times. Everyone that knows me knows I’m not a kisser. So, that was yet another barrier that I broke down with her.

We did all the things couples do, but I always reminded her after she’d look at me with those beautiful doe-eyes, “You know we’re just kickin’ it right?” And she’d say, “Don’t worry Mr. Man, I know you don’t want to settle down. At least not with me. I understand.” Then she’d give herself to me physically with such intensity that I came to recognize this cat-and-mouse scenario was mutually arousing for both of us.

That thang had us jonesin’ hard.

I even thought about giving her the elusive “key” one day. But then I woke up and realized I was having a nightmare.

One night coming from a party, we were drag racing this Puerto Rican couple in a Mustang on the FDR blasting Blackstreet’s “Baby Be Mine” from their debut album, and I serenaded her doing 90 mph. It was so erotic, we pulled over after we crossed the Brooklyn Bridge, and found a spot where we tore it down right there on the side of the road. At 3 a.m. in the morning. It was scorching hot! Our relationship had an unquenchable passion to it.

Until this day, I can’t hear the songs, “U Blow My Mind” “Physical Thing” and “Make U Wet” and not smile.

( ( ( Peep Game ) ) )
Keys to the Kingdom is a tactic that widows use…a guy may buy his nagging girlfriend a ring to make her “wifey” but she’ll suffocate holding her breath waiting for them to actually get married. Sure, he’ll give you the keys to the…but there’ll be no driving. You’re going for that fool’s gold.

From the forthcoming book, Exposing the Game: Learning How-to Stop Playing Yourself (RTK Communications)

Message The S-Dot Files your e-mail address to receive a FREE copy of the eBook, Exposing the Game.

Imagine That!!!

2009-06-12T11:14:00.001-07:00

Yippee!!! It's time for Taylor and I to finally go and see "Imagine That" this weekend. Check out the trailer.

( ( ( sDOTtv ) ) ) now playing Imagine That movie trailer

We've been looking forward to this for months since it's similar to our own daddy daughter story. Taylor used to come into the office all the time when I was at the helm of the magazine. She'd walk around the office with her little clipboard "interviewing" the models, celebs and others for the magazine. It was so cute.

Now, it's in theaters. Check it out if you get a chance and let me know your thoughts.

Also, it's Relationship Weekend at EBC as well. Yep, singles, singles and more singles. This promises to be a very interesting weekend. Tonight is Game Night (bring an unattached friend, you're NOT interested in for some cards, boardgames and Wii), tomorrow are the relationship workshops and Sunday sums up a transformative experience for those who are single, involved and married.

If you can, come out and join us. It's going to be a great time.

Oh, and shout out to Derrick Phillips from the Real Dads Network who's featured in a one-page piece in today's Daily News' Spotlight on Great People section. The piece is entitled "Fighting to Preserve Family" features him alongside Tammy Greer Brown, president and CEO of Celebrating Real Family Life giving an account of brother Derrick's steadfast resolve to becoming the dad he never had for his two daughters Jordyn, 13 and Maya, 9 with his wife Maria.

Good stuff, brother Derrick. I'm very proud of you. Keep up the great work, and don't stop winning the good fight.

In the World…
50’s scent Power is coming to Macy’s this fall for those of you folks that want to smell like your wealthy. Do you smell that? It smells like...kaching (lol).

Today Was a Great Day!!!

2009-06-07T22:42:00.000-07:00

By S-Dot for The S-Dot Files

( ( ( sDOTtv ) ) ) now playing Jay-Z "Death of Auto Tune"

A moment of silence...La da da da hey hey hey...gooodbye!!!

THE STREETS ARE TALKING: Skinny jeans are officially over! Let them go. Ringtone rap is hereby placed on probation until further notice. And Auto Tune is a wrap!

And now back to blogging...

Ever have one of those days that you know you'll remember fondly throughout your life? I had one of them today.

It wasn't one particular thing, but rather the culmination of several that made this day standout. Let's see...I got up and lollygagged around around until 1 p.m. Then I did laundry, which is always therapeutic for me. Nothing like clean underwear to make you feel all brand-new. LOL. Then I went home and got all swaggerific and spiffy in a two-piece, double-breasted suit, powder blue button down with french cuffs, some D&G Light Blue and my swags (shades) and it was on and poppin'. I was ready to go.

So, I met up with my attention-grabber (codename: "Eartha") on the subway, and we went to the Real Dads Network's Celebration of Black Fathers semi-formal dinner in Harlem. She was wearing a really cute black dress with a shawl and nice clutch. Her shoes were in her hand and she was wearing ballet shoes. She said, "When we get there, I can put these ballet shoes in my bag." Gangster! Of course, we arrived 45 minutes from the scheduled time, which was actually 15 minutes before the time it started. Which meant, we were able to go window shop on 125th for a few minutes and I got to watch her catwalk and simply be beautiful. She's quite a looker. Definitely different. Can't put my finger on why...but I'm enjoying this getting-to-know each other phase.

You know that tension and anticipation of knowing you're going to hang out with someone and you're self conscious of everything from your deodorant to your breath mints? Or maybe that's just me. LOL

Anyway, the awards ceremony was great. We were both talking about food en route, so we arrived hungry. Soon as we sat down she was like, "Ummm...they've got salad over there. I'm starving. I hope they're going to serve the food during the awards." I had to respect her steez. I love a woman that is not afraid to say she's hungry. LOL She kept it real talk. We tore that salad up, and it was kinda cool when she reached for and handed me a roll. That's when I realized, I haven't been out on a REAL date in a minute. LOL I stole a few glances at her. I busted her stealing some back. We smiled and visually flirted. She's got such a beautiful smile. I know I said that, but that woman could do a toothpaste commercial.

Then her leg touched mines under the table and I felt that jolt of electricity. Damn, I thought I was in the movie Grease, I could've sworn I heard somebody (okay it was my overactive imagination) say, "I got chills / they're multiplying / power / it's electrifying." As you can read, I clearly need to get out more...

Where was I? Okay, so brother John Amos of the classic tv show "Good Times" and the mini-series "Roots" was given a Lifetime achievement award tonight by my dude Derrick Phillips, Executive Director of the RDN. John Amos kept it real talk throughout his acceptance monologue. He shared some of his life's testimony. In particular, how his dad abandoned him when he was 2 years old, and his mom told him to grow up and be strong so he could find his dad and "whip his *ss." We were crying with laughter. John is hilarious. Then he shared how he later came to live with that very same dad and was honored to come to know him as a man. John said that the James Evans character was patterned after his own father, who was a man of integrity and stood up for his family, right or wrong. At one point, this accomplished writer, actor, producer and legend broke down in tears sharing portions of his life. It was touching to see and inspiring to witness.

These days...The John Amos Radio Show with co-host Terahshea McCray comes on daily from noon to 1 p.m. EST on www.urbannetwork.com featuring healthy lifestyle topics ranging from nutrition to exercise, click by and check it out. He's also starring in a Halley's Comet, a thought-provoking one man show directed by John Harris Jr. that takes the audience on a 76 year journey through the life experiences of a man looking back on everything from the ozone layer to the civil rights movement.

Also in the house was sister Terri M. Williams, author, advocate and media maverick whose portfolio of titles includes: Black Pain, A Plentiful Harvest, Stay Strong and Personal Touch. It's always a joy and inspiration to see this trailblazer in public relations. If you, or someone you know is suffering and struggling with depression, click by and check out what's new with this dynamic, passionate woman of purpose: www.TerriWilliams.com

Finally, it was also great to listen to 16-year old singing sensation Najiyah Threatt's rousing rendition of "Hero." She's so talented and geniunely committed artist to honing her craft faithfully.

Well, that's enough sharing for now. Thanks for reading. Have a blessed day. Thanks to all my brothers from the Real Dads Network for yet another outstanding event.

( ( ( Man Up! ) ) )

www.RealDadsNetwork.com - Making Connections One Dad at Time

Exposing the Game & Overcoming the Booty Excerpts

2009-06-06T11:11:00.000-07:00

By S-Dot for The S-Dot Files

Here's an excerpt to get you motivated...until Exposing the Game debuts. Enjoy!

“I wasn’t addicted to sex; I was strung out on a desire for love.”

( ( ( Peep Game ) ) )

THE ISOLATIONIST wants to sequester you away from those who exercise discretion and judgment. They sell you a dream of solitude to lure you away from others who can see through their falsehood. An advanced isolationist will make this all seem like your idea too.

Blurring the line is a process of placing prey under subjugation through a copulation technique called the ‘cuddle huddle’ that lulls them asleep. Done effectively, the intended person will lose their grip on actuality, becoming open to being reprogrammed with an alternate reality. They’ll see whatever the widow allows them to see. Hence, blurring the line of what’s really going on.

To accomplish this, a black widow learns how-to manipulate its prey sexually and increase their dependence on the oxytocin (commonly called the “love hormone” in women) released after stimulating encounters. Serotonin boning raises a partner’s levels during intimacy increasing the likelihood of turning a mark into a ‘Toby’.

The Other “O”
Oxytocin zaps the heart and clobbers an unsuspecting partner over the head with sexually-induced amnesia.

Don’t isolate yourself. It’s important that you establish and sustain a network that affirms and supports your personal growth.

--- Get your copy of the book that's Exposing the Game, teaching the truth and demonstrates the proof. Got Played? It's time to learn the "secret" rules of the game, by a retired MVP player.

Message The S-Dot Files your e-mail address to receive a FREE copy of the eBook, Exposing the Game.

And now a watch-n-learn clip from the Got Played Archives on the campus of UNC

( ( ( sDOTtv ) ) ) now playing Cheating Girlfriend Gets Owned

The S-Dot Files presents Exposing the Game: Learning How-to Stop Playing Yourself and OVERCOMING the BOOTY: Breaking the Sex Hex (RTK Communications, 2009).

( ( ( Are You Dating-to-Save? ) ) )

A relational mismatch is when you're seeking love and receiving lust. You desire certainty and you're left with insecurity.

How-to grow in your relationships
1. Identify your stumbling blocks
2. Develop a hurdle jumping strategy
3. Put it in practice
4. Proceed with caution

Don't run...It’s time to OVERCOME.
Meet 9ine this fall in the explosive book that took 40 years to live...and started a movement. Here's an excerpt from the ‘get-over-it’ guide that everyone will be pretending they’re not reading (wink, wink):

9ine with all her spiritual credentials and theological academic training, in the end was still a woman that was unwilling to be faithful to God’s promise of real love. She, like me, struggled with her flesh. Having been similarly conditioned to mistake physical affection for genuine interest, she became the aggressor in our relationship intimately. We spent a number of times together with me clawing her hands from my crotch or begging her, “Woman, you need to stop…” as she soul kissed me her delicious mouth.

Don’t think that I was entirely innocent either. I was kissing and fondling back. But what I needed at that point was someone to tell me, “No, you’ve got to go.” But, we were in GodSexy…that thang the world can’t and won’t understand.

Find out what happens...Labor Day Weekend...OVERCOMING the BOOTY it’s time to start Breaking the Sex Hex.

Get healed and be delivered.

The S-Dot Files is a total wellness empowerment platform powered by social media infotainment featuring advice-driven content that provides practical tips and thought-provoking insights on topic such as; family, faith, relationships, finances and more. With helpful resources for everyday people, like you!

( ( ( POWERED by a MAN of PURPOSE ) ) )

Copyright © 2009, The S-Dot Files

It's Deeper Than Fact...Rick Ross the Pied Piper of Rap

2009-05-15T09:28:00.000-07:00

This week’s blog is an exclusive Hall of Shame case study which illustrates how you can go from a bragger to being accused of having bootleg swagger. The subject of this investigative piece by The S-Dot Files is William Leonard Roberts II, known by his rap alias Rick Ross.

Ross has sustained several character questioning blows, the latest of which has Louis Vuitton blowing him up about wearing knockoff shades bearing their emblem on XXL’s “Rick Ross Up in Smoke” cover. Ricky’s preoccupation with bling has blinded him to the reality that his pockets don’t match his ‘$10 millionaire’ swagger, so he’s been known to rock knockoffs and bootleg the styles of others.

Ms. Tiallondra Kemp, the mother of William Leonard Roberts III, son of rotund rapper Rick Ross has put him on full blast. Her baby mama tell-all memoir, “Deeper than Rap” bears the same title as the Miami wordsmiths latest album, which debuted at #1 on Billboard, selling a measly 158,000 copies.

CHECKING TIA’S RESUME…
Rick coveted Tia the Liberty City native of the infamous Pork-n-Beans Projects whiles she was still an incarcerated man’s wife. The inmate’s wife stealer wooed her away with the false promise of the finer things in life. Of course this appealed to her after growing up in the 763-unit housing complex in a single-parent home, disenfranchised with a father sentenced to 40 years in prison. Rick recognized that as a representative of the very same system that locked up her father and former husband is how he ensnared her.

What she ended up with was his namesake William Jr. and him disrespecting her on Youtube for all the world to see.

In several recent media interviews Tia shares, he hasn’t seen his son since he took the truck back in January from the parking lot at their child support hearing. Rick also disregards texts from his ex. The mother of William Jr. says, “You ain’t got to talk to me. Holla at your son.” The rich deadbeat, has also been accused of not paying his child support for the last two months. “He ain’t sent a check or nothing.”

To counter and refuge these scathing charges, the fake Louis Vuitton wearing rhymer will likely have to provide copies of cancelled checks. Baby mamas everywhere are ramping up support of Tia against deadbeats globally. Ricky is really making a lot of around-the-way dudes in the hood catch heat.

( ( ( sDOTtv ) ) ) now playing Tia Tells the Truth on Rick “Fake Boss” Ross

Yes, it’s Deeper than Rap…
Brooke, his first baby’s mother’s daughter saw the clip of her having sex online. Now, even Tia’s son wants to see the video. Just imagine the shame and horror.

Selling Out…
The former corrections officer has three #1 debuts on Billboard. Last year’s “Trilla” sold 198,000 and 2006’s “Port of Miami” sold 189,000 their first week. This makes his latest album which should’ve debuted with no less than 300,000 in sales from all the publicity generated by his high-profile beef with rap titan 50 Cent a commercial flop. His newest album “Deeper than Rap” sold 158,000-175,000 (depending on your source), and those first week sales fell 68% the second week.

By contrast, 50 Cent’s first name “Curtis” sold 691,000 its first week and folks called it a flop. Clearly, the public has let this recession lull them into thinking that a difference of 516,000-533,000 in sales is not a huge difference. Duh!

Officer Ricky used to pat brothers down and strip search them for weapons and contraband. He closed their cell doors and locked them in cages like “mooonkeeees” as he loves calling people. His zookeeper-like taunts are proof of his need to get over himself. He makes catchy music, but it’s not that serious and he could be forgotten. He’s yet to make anything memorable enough for the type of noise that’s always coming out of his lying mouth. Fat boy should’ve just wrapped and not said a word with all the issues he’s got.

( ( ( sDOTtv ) ) ) now playing Julia Beverly Gives Rick Ross of BDR (Bad D*ck Report)

PLAYER ADVISORY: If you’re going to pick up the bat swing it player. Otherwise you’re going to be labeled a lame for swinging for mediocre scribes. Officer Ricky gives out-of-breath quickies and can’t wear out the booty. That’s a bad look.

( ( ( sDOTtv ) ) ) now playing Rick Ross Doesn’t Recognize He’s Losing the Beef

LISTENER OBSERVATION: Rick calls this radio host “my brother” repeatedly, but calls 50 Cent “mooonkeee” like a Klansman.

Switching sides: “It’s not about who sells more records.” (???) Then when he’s reminded by radio host that this is “business of music” he says “of course it is.” LOL

REAL TALK: From now on, Officer Ricky should be required to an ‘Oath of Truth’ before he begins all interviews since he’s got butterfingers with the truth. Otherwise the streets should mute out all statements made by this individual regardless of how catchy the musical backdrop. Remember, the Pied Piper lead young impressionable minds astray the same way.

The former corrections officer needs to practice corrective discipline when it comes to compulsion to lie because of his lust for money, power and respect. His anger and greed had led him to attach himself to people that feed his pride without checking his ego. Just looking at his body is evidence of his inability to watch his mouth.

Rick is greedy for the attention of others besides his children. He is lustful for the accolades of strangers and discards the love that others who’ve been duped by his lies have shown. In the eyes of many of the broken, battered and disappointed women in our communities, he epitomizes the ‘trapped man’ a brother imprisoned within the status quo.

The reason Rick is not a $100 millionaire is because he fails to address his liabilities and recklessly squanders his assets. He’s all flash and no cash. His fear of our ability to vet his past has lead to his compulsive lying campaign which he calls a media tour. Officer Ricky in each ensuing interview continues to show that he suffers from verbal diarrhea.

( ( ( sDOTtv ) ) ) now playing Deeper Than Rap BET Special

Reality Chin-Checking…
Officer Ricky constantly says stuff like Dr. Dre should holla at him. He says he’ll end the beef if 50 “pay me to write his raps, and Dr. Dre give me five beats.” But if he’d just listen to Dre’s music catalogue, he’d find his own answer in tracks like “Deep Cover” and “F*ck the Police.”

Note to Officer Ricky: Dr. Dre doesn’t mess with the police.

A Man in Denial…
To claim of William Jr’s mother Tia, “this is a woman I was never personally attached to. I took it like she was an actress for a day,” is sad commentary. He had sex with that woman without a condom, now he was never personally attached to her? You can’t get any more personal than that. One day his son will be able to Youtube and hear his father deny his mother. This dude is serious not thinking long-term.

And then to claim that he hasn’t watched the video featuring Brooke, saying “of course I haven’t watched the video” the mother of his first child is downright ridiculous. He goes on, “For the record: I don’t know a Brooke.” Who would not look at the evidence against them in the public court of opinion? That is just an asinine statement to make.

Speculation is that he’s a Laurence Fishburne-like ‘Deep Cover’ operative working within the realms of music to build cases against street organizations. Word on the street is that Officer Ricky comes around burning trees and asking who’s got “that” in order to entrap them for the Hip Hop cops.

Tale from their Tapes…
William Leonard Roberts II (Rick Ross) worked at a jail and Curtis Jackson (50 Cent) has done time in a jail. And since prisons and COs don’t get along… Curtis’ street life lead to him getting five shots by rivals, William’s fabricated life has him pretending he shot at least five of his rivals. And someone took the movie ‘Deep Cover’ a little too serious. Both have adopted the names of street legends. 50’s namesake is deceased and Rick’s is witnessing his name die daily.

Big Willie sure loves to be silly, and really has slippery fingers when it comes to the facts. He embellishes nearly every word that comes out of his mouth. His confidence makes you want to root for him, but then he keeps talking and you end up just wishing he’d shut his pie hole.

Bootleg Swagger…
In hip-hop eyewear is also know as ‘swags’ so for Ross to be caught on the cover of XXL wearing fake floss LV glasses is embarrassing. Particularly, since the luxury brand sent a letter of clarification to the hip hop publication notifying the streets of yet another lie from embellishing rapper. The LV brand spokesperson said in a letter to clarify several points to the magazine: “The first is that the sunglasses Mr. Ross is wearing were not made by Louis Vuitton and, in fact, are counterfeit. Louis Vuitton did not grant permission to Mr. Ross or to whoever did make the sunglasses to use our trademarks. The second is that no affiliation, sponsorship or association exists between Rick Ross or XXL and Louis Vuitton. The third is that counterfeiting is illegal.” Ouch!!!

Officer Ricky’s undoing is William Leonard Roberts II. His truths keep coming to light.

So, on that note let’s check out some comedy that Officer Ricky has inspired in the blogosphere. Enjoy!

( ( ( sDOTtv ) ) ) now playing Deeper Than Snacks

( ( ( sDOTtv ) ) ) now playing Rick Ross Gets Clowned

With Rick Ross...it's Deeper than Facts (lol).

Are You OBSESSED With Me?

2009-05-06T07:26:00.000-07:00

By S-Dot for The S-Dot Files

This message was inspired by the movie OBSESSED which totally freaked me out because of its familiarity. It is not my intention to offend any person or persons actually struggling with being OBSESSED. The S-Dot Files believes in engaging in real talk, with real people about real things, so we encourage you, the much-appreciated reader to share your thoughts and comments.

( ( ( sDOTtv ) ) ) now playing OBSESSED movie trailer

In college, I too was OBSESSED with one of my professors. She was so intelligent, cultured and F-I-N-E. During her lectures, I swore she was looking directly at me through those cute, nerdy librarian-like glasses. We often made eye contact, and I would imagine that wedding ring disappearing off her finger.

I dreamt about her. Yes, those kinds of dreams that led to me imagining... So, I scheduled bogus appointments just to be in her presence. I did all those strange things that usually lead people to file restraining orders.

I even failed her class 3 times on purpose! Yep, I was OBSESSED with her. It’s funny now, but at the time it was really weird.

Are you OBSESSED with me?

I’ve experienced a number of OBSESSED people (yep, a few dudes too) that thought they “loved” me, but were merely seeing the image of me that they created in their own minds. Having been stalked by a few OBSESSED women in my lifetime, these days I’m very guarded when it comes to dating. There are some truly disturbed individuals out there that are suffering from all sorts of physical, mental and spiritual afflictions that impair their ability to develop healthy relationships.

One OBSESSED person began virtually stalking my online friends from myspace and imeem to facebook and youtube trying to infiltrate closeness and intrude in conversations that they had nothing to do with. I often noticed them making comments or e-mailing, texting me about who left me a comment on my social network pages. And then, they’d pretend they were “just playing” when I pointed out how OBSESSED they appeared.

Are you OBSESSED with me?

Perhaps you’re so OBSESSED that you’ve right-clicked (copied) my photo to your desktop and use it as a screensaver. Maybe you even tell yourself, and others, that we’re having a “relationship” even though I’m totally clueless about it. That’s so weird and creepy. And now being OBSESSED has led you to behave in a clandestine way to glean any useable information to advance your fantasy of us being together.

NEWS FLASH: It’s not going to happen.

I don’t care how crazysexy you are, being OBSESSED with me is not cool.

10 SIGNS THAT YOU’RE OBSESSED WITH ME
1. You visit my page to read other people’s comments (also means your nosey).
2. You then visit their pages to read my comments to them (you’re really nosey).
3. You use my photo as your screensaver (that’s really creepy).
4. You have printed out photos of me near you in your office or at home (whoa!).
5. You believe that “God told you” you’re my wife (but He doesn’t mention you).
6. You masturbate to images and thoughts of us together intimately (ewww…).
7. You think everyone of my blogs is written about you (that’s egotistical).
8. You get upset when you see photos of me with other people (I do have a life).
9. You have photos of my face glued onto photos with you beside me (wtf!).
10. You think my purpose online is to communicate with you (that’s so Kanye).

TAKE IT EASY Whitley Gilbert. Relax. Relate. R-e-l-e-a-s-e.

I’m not mad at you. God has made me GodSexy. It’s His favor that you’re actually drawn to. He’s such an awesome B.I.G. Poppa, and really knows how to remix a man. You should holla at Him too.

Now, sis you just need to re-channel that energy, productively and constructively.

GETTING OVER S-DOT…
If my virtual presence is dominating your everyday real life, you need to begin abstaining from looking at images of me; and start looking at men around you that exhibit the qualities you find desirable about me. It’s an ‘I want one’ crush. I get them all the time. Trust me, you’re really not that into me – it’s the concept of me that you’re into. I’m a handful. I love me and even I can’t stand myself at times (lol).

Reality check: I live in NYC. I’m not likely going to be moving to your state, and it’s probably not a good idea for you to move to mines. If that is meant to happen a great deal of real talk will have to happen before that takes place. Simply leaving a few comments, texts and e-mails won’t cut it (at least for me).

10 THINGS ABOUT ME THAT WILL ANNOY YOU
1. I talk a lot. No, seriously – you have no idea.
2. I have the attention span of a three-year old most of the time.
3. I am really moody and sometime-ish.
4. I read and write all the time. It’s cute at first, but then…
5. I require continued reminders about my tardiness and grumbling.
6. I am obsessive compulsive about hygiene.
7. I lack discipline in stores that sell things that I don’t need (gadgets, etc.).
8. I will refold all the laundry and straighten the cans. Yep, I’m that guy.
9. I am overly protective. Again, it’s cute at first, but then…
10. I am pursued by a lot of women OBSESSED with me.

HERE’S SOME BROTHERLY ADVICE + COUNSEL
Delete my photos from your hard drive.
Stop pleasuring yourself to thoughts of me.

Thanks for clicking by F-R-I-E-N-D.

1-4-3
S-Dot aka William

WIFE-PIECE ADVISORY - Hey future wife-piece, I’m not OBSESSED with you, I’m just so looking forward to when I’m BLESSED with you. I’m focused ma. When I finally meet you, I’ll already be in love with you, because I just know you’re the bomb! I hope you’re doing what you’re supposed to be doing, and ready, willing and able to be in love with me too. We are going to be so GodSexy together! In the meantime, and in between time, I’m working on my William swag, learning how-to be a real friend, to real women, that are GodSexy, intelligent, beautiful and deserving of all that God has for them. God bless you Joans.

( ( ( sDOTtv ) ) ) now playing Musiq Soulchild “LOVE”

I L-O-V-E You woman!!!

S-Dot publicly shares his private struggles with relational intimacy to equip, encourage and empower everyday people, just like you, to get up and get over the strongholds to finding real love. Yes, his blogs are very transparent, but that’s because he’s focused on helping others heal, not inviting people that are OBSESSED to fixate on him. That’s so not cool.

Handle Yours

2009-04-27T10:15:00.000-07:00

Here's a clip from God Shammgod that can instruct you on your handling. Shamm is the son of my uncle. He's done quite a bit in the game of basketball.

( ( ( sDOTtv ) ) ) now playing God Shammgod "Handle Yours"

Product of Grace - Kimberly L. Scott

2009-04-20T04:22:00.001-07:00

What do you do when you find yourself stuck in the lemon grove of life? Some people turn sour and bitter. An overcomer makes lemonade. Meet author and faithpreneur Kimberly L. Scott or “KimVincible” as her readers are calling her these days. She’s an overcomer that keeps it moving. A battle-tested woman that refused to lose in life, Kim found her personal strength through unwavering faith in God.

Q: So, when did you realize that your testimony was book worthy?
A: Well, I remember when I was a little girl at church, the Lord spoke to my heart during service. The Lord said, "The words of your life will be written on paper." At the time, I had no idea what He meant. Then in my adulthood, years after living a very fast-paced and promiscuous lifestyle, I began to reflect on the many times the Lord spared my life. Finally one day, I came to myself and realized that God had been too good to sit on my testimony any longer. On that day, I started writing.

Q: How did you keep getting back up when life knocked you down?
A: By constant prayer, determination and faith in the Lord.

Q: What's your go to scripture for a crisis?
A: Psalm 116:1-13

Q: What's on the horizon for Kim Scott?
A: I'm currently writing two other books God's giving me that are related to the ministry, I'm writing gospel songs, and I also plan on working on obtaining a degree in theology, as the Lord leads.

Q: What song do you use to set your worship atmosphere?
A: I love listening to Fred Hammond's 'Mender of a Broken Heart.'

Q: Tell me about a sermon/message that changed the course of your life, and why?
A: When I was a backslider, I heard a minister speaking about the goodness of God, and how God still loved us even through our mess. It pricked my heart, and I decided to rededicate my life to Christ.

Q: Any advice to younger women that have suffered, and are going through some of the things you’ve encountered?
A: I would to tell them to keep Isaiah 54:5 close to their hearts, "For thy Maker is thine husband; the LORD of hosts is his name; and thy Redeemer the Holy One of Israel; The God of the whole earth shall he be called." People can and will let us down. That is why it is essential for our identity to be rooted in Christ. Men will let us down, but God's love is unfailing.

Q: How do you deal with your singleness in and outside of church?
A: A lot of prayer. I acknowledge God's purposeful call on my life and discuss boundaries before there is even a first date with someone. After I discuss my boundaries, there usually isn't a first date anyway, but it's okay! I believe God is protecting me for the mate designed for me, who doesn't want to take short cuts.

Once Kim awoke to the reality that she, like Mary J. Blige, was also searching for real love in all the wrong places, she decided to go home to God. Here’s an exclusive peek between the covers of this must-read real-talk memoir of trial, tribulation and triumph.

PRODUCT OF GRACE excerpt

Yet after experiencing both rapes, I began to question
the Lord Himself in the privacy of my heart. I wondered why
God allowed these events to happen, especially since I
attempted to make a change for the better. Why did you let this
happen, Lord? Wasn’t I trying to change?

I negligently failed to realize that God already provided a way of escape for me (1 Corinthians 10:13) by telling me not to date these men to
begin with. I also failed to realize that He does not tempt us
with evil (James 1:13).

Of course, this is not to say that rape in general is the
victim’s fault. Neither is this to say that if a woman is raped,
that she sinned before God. I knew of a Christian woman
who was raped by a complete stranger, with no fault of her
own. I can only speak of my own experiences because with
both of my attacks, the voice of the Lord warned me not to be
in the company of these men. Both times, I disobeyed out of
my own, stubborn freewill.

Being deceived, my heart began to get hardened and
embedded with resentment as I willfully distanced myself
farther from the Father than I have ever been before in my life.
I was thoroughly determined to rebel from the voice of the
Lord and do my own thing.

I reasoned in my heart, “If sex is
going to keep being forced upon me, then I might as well
embrace and enjoy it.” From that moment, I boldly became a
self-proclaimed ‘Professional Backslider.’ The pain of the
abuse became the impetus of a promiscuous lifestyle.

However, Isaiah 45:9 (KJV) warns,
“Woe unto him that striveth his Maker! Let the potsherd
strive with the potsherds of the earth. Shall the clay say to him that
fashioneth it, what makest thou? or thy work, He hath no hands?”

Excerpt from Product of Grace, Chapter 6, 'As A Roaring Lion'

Here’s what people are saying about Product of Grace

“(The) Product of Grace" was inspiring--a true declaration of God's divine purpose for all of those who have fallen and decided to turn their life around and live a godly life. Kim I give you my most humble applaud and yes you truly are a Product of Grace.” – Shenyell A. Morales, Amazon.com

Get your copy of Product of Grace today!

ISBN-13: 978-1603831406 | ISBN-10: 1603831401
Holy Fire Publishing – released 12/3/08

PRODUCT OF GRACE is 240 pages of transformational testimony about the power of God to meet you in whatever your circumstances, priced at just $14.99. Give yourself the gift of inspiration. Read and be empowered by this bold statement of faith.

KEEPING IT MOVING

Kimberly L. Scott found herself at the well of life many times. After spending time as a prodigal daughter she was en route to returning home to the Lord, when she was savagely raped twice. Embittered and angry with God, she embraced the darkness of her pain dubbing herself a ‘professional backslider’. Losing her footing in life, she took a downward spiral into promiscuity, bisexuality, porn addiction, drugs, alcohol and violence. Life took her in many directions

At her bottom, she found herself faced with prostitution. Granted God’s grace, she reclaimed her spiritual heritage under the anointed leadership of Bishop Kenneth C. Ulmer of Faithful Central Bible Church in Inglewood, CA. Back in the fold, she became engaged to a minister and found her destiny delayed when illness suddenly threatened her life. Having stumbled, fallen, got up and dusted herself off over and over again this overcomer is ready to share her lived-and-learned testimony with “Product of Grace” to inspire and empower others, like you.

Kimberly L. Scott currently resides in her hometown of Los Angeles, CA with her family. She enjoys living a quiet, peaceful lifestyle working on her artwork, songwriting and poetry as she continues to let God direct her next steps answering her call into ministry.

For bookings and inquiries: productofgracememoir@yahoo.com

The S-Dot Files salutes our 1st OVERCOMER Kimberly L. Scott!

Kanye Goes to Metox @ Last!!!

2009-04-10T07:10:00.001-07:00

Here's Kayne's ALL CAPS response on his blog.

NOTE TO KANYE: An ALL CAPS blog is still obnoxious. CAPS are only to be used to make a specific item standout. If you think every single syllable you tweet and type should be ALL CAPS you definitely have some work to do in METOX. I pray that you continue to "get over yourself."

Oh, and dude please STOP endorsing those DAMN skinny jeans your entourage loves to rock its looks very Christopher Street (see how I used those ALL CAPS). Real men will never embrace androgyny no matter how catchy the soundtrack is. In the hood, we've implemented a new term to replace "no homo" are you ready... "no Kanye". So, "get over yourself" fast homie.

And, "You're so DOPE Kanye." I said that, because I know you were probably having an ego meltdown if you're reading this... Which I know you are strangely enough (smile).

Now, if South Park could just put Officer Ricky...ooops, Rick Ross on blast and make him "get over" himself so much would be right in the world.

He's really embarrassing himself bad. He's right his issues are 'deeper than rap' they need therapy. Somebody please give this brother a METOX today! Puh-leeze.

Oh, almost forgot: Officer Ricky, the hood also has a term for guys that claim to be the "boss" love to floss and treat the mothers of their children like dental floss - stop rossin'

Obama In Prague

2009-04-08T11:07:00.000-07:00

Here is President Barack Obama's address in Prague.

( ( ( sDOTtv ) ) ) now playing President Obama in Prague

Knocks it out of the park once again. Regardless of whether you agree or disagree with his politics, his charisma is undeniable. He is truly one of the greatest orators of our time and throughout world history.

King Magazine Gets Crowned!!!

2009-04-01T07:20:00.000-07:00

THE SPIRIT OF ELIJAH IS RETURNING

This just in...After six years of leading males into the bondage of pornography, KING magazine gets AHAB’d and shuts down.

Rick Ross Exposed

2009-03-18T08:32:00.000-07:00

By S-Dot for The S-Dot Files

Before beginning this blog, I'd like to invite you to examine these documents that have been made publicly available courtesy of TheSmokingGun.com

Pictured above is William Leonard Roberts, Jr. (aka Rick Ross)

Pictured above is the social security card for William Leonard Roberts, Jr.

Pictured above is the letter of resignation for William Leonard Roberts, Jr.

Almost Perfect

2009-02-25T20:03:00.001-08:00

Hey,

I just clicked by my friend's page to leave a comment of this video and it then I actually watched it, and had some thoughts to share...

( ( ( sDOTtv ) ) ) now playing A Different World "Save the Best for Last 1"

A few years ago, I dated a woman that was the cats meow to hear my dude tell it. Oh, don't get it twisted --- she was a wife-piece. Accomplished. A six-figure investment banker. Intelligent. Socially outgoing, well-versed in the comings and goings in Gotham and globally cultured. She drew all eyes whenever she stepped in a room. The wattage of her beauty radiated even brighter because she was so unaffected by it.

Our birthdays were one day apart. We shared so many commonalities that to all that encountered us they simply said, "Wow, you two are so good together." Not just people we knew either. Strangers. We'd walk down the street and tourists would stop us in midtown and tell us, "You are going to make beautiful children." And I agreed. Did I mention how all caps F-I-N-E she was?

Now, to make it even more interesting she came from a moneyed family. Not just a few bucks. Moneyed as in, "Hey, if you two get married, we'd like to buy you a $2 million duplex as wedding gift." So, as I was saying my dude swore she was the cats meow....

Let's take a videoclip break. Go get a cup of something, this might be a minute --- Hey, The S-Dot Files it's not just a blog, it's an experience (smile).

( ( ( sDOTtv ) ) ) now playing A Different World "Save the Best for Last 2"

Okay, let's keep this going (you're welcome K.I.M. - lol)

( ( ( sDOTtv ) ) ) now playing A Different World "Save the Best for Last 3"

So, as I was saying...I had this F-I-N-E woman, yet I still couldn't commit to her. Why? Because I was intimidated by the reality that she was everything that I prayed for. PERFECT. I was absolutely terrified. She could finish my sentences. She understood, supported and corrected if necessary my motives.

Oh --- she did not do cooking. Hey, ALMOST PERFECT.

Let's what another videoclip. What will Whitley do? Is she really going to married old boy? Mama Carroll is so F-I-N-E ain't she?

---- AND NOW A BLATANT DISPLAY OF SELF-PROMOTION----

( ( ( Peep It On the Download ) ) )

Check out a FREE excerpt right now

THE BOOK THAT TOOK 40 YEARS TO LIVE!

OVERCOMING the BOOTY: Breaking the Sex Hex

It’s time to get healed and be delivered!

HERE'S AN EXCERPT

SO WHAT’S MY STORY?

I’m going to keep it real talk in the hopes that someone will recognize that they could be making better life choices. Let me begin by saying, I am not perfect, period. I have many flaws. The biggest of which is recognizing when I have flaws. However, I’m growing in coming to a greater knowing of true self.

There are some ties that bind families generationally. In my family, womanizing is a well-practiced pastime of those who provided my education on relationships.

For years, my “boys” and I thought being a “man” was playing hump and dump with women. So, I focused the bulk of my time and energy on beguiling women. I had the magic stick. So, I learned to manipulate, misuse and abuse them for my pleasure and then discarded them.

One fated night, I got out of bed and screamed at the top of lungs, “God, I need a remix!” I was sick of worrying about getting that sickness that everyone doesn’t talk about, but has nightmares about. And I was tired of being tired.

I was addicted to booty. It had me jonesin’ hard. And I felt the “sickness” was stalking me, just a condom break away from being like those smiling idiots on those posters, “living with HIV/AIDS.” I watched so many people I know get it and die. It began to grow closer to me and that fear led me to reexamine my addiction to booty.

PLAYER ADVISORY EXPOSES THE GAME

I spent 31 years of my life consumed with sexuality which has given me a broad range of knowledge on sensuality from a practical, social, spiritual and scientific perspective. My indulgences in flesh as an avowed hedonist led me to becoming a lust conjurer. Someone that is able to beguile and bewitch others wielding the power of lust craft for self-gratification.

Someone skilled in this area is used by the enemy to coerce and tempt others to embrace compromise as a lifestyle. A person that adheres to this paradigm of intimacy will be highly adept at using various methodologies and philosophies to advance this agenda.

Getting to bottom of the situation

When a player wants to strike it rich they’ve got to master the combination to unlock the pleasures of the “vault.” What is the vault? The Uterine Fornix (“Fornix Uteri”), which is often called the “bottom” and is commonly known as the “arch” that divides a woman’s vagina between the anterior (front) and posterior (back) walls.

From the book that's inspiring a movement, OVERCOMING the BOOTY: Breaking the Sex Hex - Available Memorial weekend 2009.

E-mail: thesdotfiles@gmail.com to be a FREE copy of chapter one, "From a Player to a Prayer" today!

( ( ( sDOTtv ) ) ) now playing A Different World "Save the Best for Last 4"

So, what happened? I broke up with her because we were not equally yoked. She was a Muslim and I'm a Christian. Her family wanted me to convert back to the faith of my youth, but I was not on the same page theologically. She wasn't active in her faith, but this was a deal breaker for her parents, and I held firm on my part.

We continued to date while she tried to show me the 'benefits' of being a man that could have all that he desired. A beautiful wife. Wealth. But, no Christ. At least not with the reverence for Christ that I have. A respect. An admiration. A profound appreciation, but not someone that would run into a church like Dwayne Wayne and scream, "...Baby...will you? I love you and if you'll have me..." And then I would scream, "I do!" But that Christ thing... I broke the deal.

Lord, I know the wifepiece you have for me is worth waiting for.

Shout to those with that Dwayne Wayne swagger that will go get who God has ordained for them...

Divine favor!

S-Dot is a personification of an example of God's transformational ability to remix a person. He lived for the world in the entertainment industry for two-decades, until his up-close and personal 'Damascus-like' experience with God. Today, he burns with an unquenchable passion for presenting the practical teachings of the Word of God with everyday relevance appealing to those seeking transformational change through the Way of Truth.

An anointed writer, inspiring creative visionary, and empowerment coach, S-Dot is currently slated to debut "OVERCOMING the BOOTY" a relational intimacy handbook for those seeking real love over lust in the spring of 2009. Also, he's gearing up for the "Man of Purpose" tour in support of The S-Dot Files' appearances on the "The Leading by Achieving Conference" and various other events in partnership with the Real Dads Network.

To book S-Dot or for informational inquiries e-mail:

thesdotfiles@gmail.com

The Dot Team

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New York Post Calls President Obama A Monkey!!!

2009-02-18T07:26:00.000-08:00

"They'll have to find someone else to write the next Stimulus Bill"

Hmm...now this illustration is clearly over-the-top. I could laugh at the Alfred E. Newman Mad magazine comparisions with the big ears. Those are funny, this is downright disrespectful.

What do you think?

(share your comments)

Join the OVERCOMERS Movement

2009-02-16T15:26:00.000-08:00

( ( ( Peops Advisory ) ) )

"You can't have a movement standing still" - S-Dot, from Volume Two: "Reset the Atmosphere"

What's good?

The Dot Team is slated to begin production on the cross media campaign for the 1st book, OVERCOMING the BOOTY: Breaking the Sex Hex in the next few weeks and I'd like to involve my myspace, facebook, youtube, etc. fam in the process. Here's what I need:

1. Individuals interested in participating in 10-minute segments of the one-hour call-in interview program. You will be sent a PDF-formatted excerpt from the book so that you can generate a question to be addressed by S-Dot and a panel of relatonship counselors.

2. Individuals in the NYC tri-state area who would like to appear on-camera in the in-studio audience for the 20-minute segment spots for one of the 12 chapters. There will be a total of 14 spots filmed, but each person may only be featured in one. You will be sent a listing of filming dates and locations.

3. Individuals interested in joining the ( ( ( Got Buzz? ) ) ) collective our online virtual street team helping spread the word and generate feedback via social network platforms - myspace, youtube, facebook, etc.

4. Individuals skilled in the areas of web 2.0 (social media) production to create and disseminate dynamic content across multiple platforms. Must provide active links to completed projects.

Please send all inquiries of interest to: thesdotfiles@gmail.com

Thank you,

S-Dot
The S-Dot Files

Change Is A Process

2009-02-08T13:30:00.000-08:00

Isn't it great to be living in this season of manifestation of revelation?

God is moving in so many ways, in people's lives and situations. All a person can do is simply be in awe of His grace. It's great to see Whitney Houston back out and about and looking really good these days. 40s looking right on her. And that extra meat makes her even dare I say it...hotter (okay, I'm praying already - lol).

Take a look for yourself. Welcome back Whitney, I was praying for you.

( ( ( sDOTtv ) ) ) now playing Whitney Houston @ 2009 Grammys

Remember, Change is a process!

Continue to lift our first family up in prayer and all those that are in positions of leadership at this hour.

Meet the Mad Blogger...He's Pretty Mad

2009-02-04T20:17:00.000-08:00

Well, as a social media mogul I'm often contacted by individuals that seek to promote whatever they've got going on or whatever. You know the Rick Loss' (not a typo) of the world. So, of course I know that sooner or later one would show up...

Ladies and Gentlemen...introducing the Mad Blogger (he's pretty mad)

( ( ( Whoa! ) ) )

Peops,

Okay, for those of that haven't read the recent blog, Thieves in the Temple click by and check it out. Here's today's comments being exchanged. Yep, it's getting crazy.

Thieves in the Temple

SYNOPOSIS: In the following exchange S-Dot find himself embattled by an individual that has been very vocal about his issues with organized religion - Christianity and Islam. He's an adherent to the 'do me' religion and practices me-ology, the science of self-mastery. His held beliefs are that we each can pillage and plunder whoever we want as long as we want because even "our book" (as he calls it) says we are "gods".

Enjoy!!! (warning - he's pretty pissed off - no really, he is... LOL)

Wow..!!! ok... let's get some facts straight.. Kundalini Energy - Yes.. Serpentine...yes I'll gladly take that.. "For it says in your book.. I think it is Matthew 10:16 (behold, I send you forth as sheep in the midst of wolves: BE YE THEREFORE WISE AS SERPENTS, AND HARMLESS AS DOVES.).. Also in Psalm 82:5-6 (They know not, neither will they understand; they walk on in darkness: all the foundations of the earth are out of course. 6. I have said, Ye are gods; and all of you are children of the most High. )... ok.. what is my point you ask???..Well if the serpent is so bad or the "Devil"..why would "Jesus(God) Christ(Teacher)" use it... that would be a strange thing to tell people to take on the attribute of an adversary..wouldn't it???.. WITCHCRAFT???..wtf.... first you have to define it.. if you want to be real about it.. if you were to jump back in time when there were not such things as airplanes, cars, electricity, natural medicine..and brought it to medi..Me Devil) Europe.. the priests would have had you burned alive at the stake like Joan of Arc..just FYI.. I use Joan of Arc as an example because it was mainly women (and also those who used their feminine principles WISELY (there is that serpent again) which are Thought, Creativity, Communication, Compassion..just to name a few..were persecuted for being "heretics" against the same religious organizations that are still around today..even your boy "Jesus Christ" was persecuted for going against the church.. (Judaism, Catholics (which is the father of Christianity), and many other similar denominations..that existed at that time.. the modern day people of these religions are now celebrating the "DEATH"..of a man/god who came to help the people out of the darkness..not die for the "sins" of anyone.. especially for the unborn 1000's of years later.. Truth is not absolute..it is relative.. for example can we live on Jupiter or any of its moons (not all moons look or have the same attributes as ours)..probably not.. but is that to say there isn't life living on them..absolutely not.. or what they worship as "GOD" is wrong??..that would be totally foolish..wouldn't you think?? We as human beings (gods in the making) are ignorant to fact that we are not alone out here in the universe.. what maybe good for us is not necessary good for someone else living out there in the cosmos.. to bring it back to earth..we are all a microcosmic aspect of what is above..thus the expression "As above so below"... and don't knock the true ancient Egyptians (or correctly the people of upper & lower KMT)....study them and the Ethiopians and you can see where Christianity and other religions originated.(but that's just my humble opinion)..their civilization predates all European cultures by 10's of thousands of years..(I'm going out there before the year is over...a necessary trip for me..).. I'll just say this..if what you say and "preach" is your truth.. so be it.. who am I to say you are wrong.. but to say you are absolutely right is wrong..and that those such as myself who have a different "view" of life..GOD/Divine giver of all life-forms.. are wicked.. and witches and LOST.. does not say much for the "Christian way of thinking".. or maybe it does.. I recently was in a conversation with a young Christian woman..who was upset with her Deacon Dea(-n.Goddess) con(-adv negative or against) (Oppositon of feminine principles of GOD)..that some young people were not allowed to sing at young people's gospel show because they were not "saved".. this is not the first time I've witnessed such peculiar situations in the world of religion).. is this to say all church goers are bad or lost people.. no way.. but you have to take the good and the bad... what I find to be my truth..many use it for selfish and "evil" purposes.. just like you know some preachers within your religion know nothing about GOD..but love that congregation offering basket.. to the point where they put an ATM in the church.. wasn't this the same thing "Jesus" was speaking against???? I would never call you "evil", wicked or lost.. because my truth is not designed to tell you that.. those things are for the individual to figure out and how those terms relate to their situation... all the wise cracks..."In Living Color".. "Method Man Astral Plane"... water down intellectual meetings of minds both perusing a higher level (heavenly) of thinking and being.. and those that post comments with "LOL's" need not comment..because there is no room in the conversation for lower level thinkers..not mad at ya...you're just not ready to really get into these type of convo's.. "A witty comment does not mean a person is intelligent." With that said..I look forward to reading more of your interesting blog's.. you don't really appreciate good blogs until we really read what's out there.. I'll leave comments where I feel I have something to contribute..as always.. peace and many blessings on your "heavenly" journey..may you find "your" truth...

Posted by February 4, 2009 - Wednesday - 10:21 PM

( ( ( S Dot ) ) )

Dude. seriously that comment was blog length. Is it just me people or are we all witnessing someone taking this just a little TOO seriously? Wow, you "others" really need to work on your sense of humor. When I was on the "other" team, I tell you... I definitely wasn't standing around commenting about sin, I was too busy out doing it. You're squandering that time you have left on this earth. This sounds wrong...but since you're not into my "Jesus" (Yahushua/Isa/Yeshua) or that "mystery" God I pray to, "boy get on out there back to earning your place in eternity." You youngin' can't even sin right. Why, I tell you. I was an O.G. of sin. I was a full-fledged hedonists. I've forgotten more sin than you can remember... Hey, the Holy Spirit (I know you don't really rock with Dude either) just hit me with this: I think that you really want to be on Team Elo-him, but you're just afraid to take a dip in the pool. Scaredy cat. It's okay. Girly man. Dude, I did. Wussy boy. And I can't even swim. It's only water. Trust me, you'll feel so much cleaner afterwards. No, I don't have my fingers crossed. We don't do that sort of thing around here. Oh, but wait you were talking about a lot of other important stuff in your comment. Dude I'm sorry, but I'm way too overjoyed about living blessed and abundantly favored to think on this earthly level. Wait...I'll try to focus. Ethiopians...Europeans. Blah, blah, blah. Nope, I'm not going to be able to. Sorry. But, thanks for the really long comment. I'll re-read it again later (wink, wink). I'm going to go dance with the Lord right now. And dude, I used to be a whorelock, so trust me I know that God can remix anyone. Yep, even you. C'mon get in this water. LOL.

Posted by ( ( ( S Dot ) ) ) on February 4, 2009 - Wednesday - 10:54 PM

Click by and read why The Mad Blogger is so mad, check out Thieves in the Temple

A Message to the Mad Blogger

Hey boyfriend (it’s sad I have to make this disclaimer put here it goes – no homo),

I thought I told you that God won't stop. Eh eh!!! It's okay if you're afraid to change buddy, but change is good. Aiight.

Your friend the 40-year old re-Virgin (1-4-3)

Thieves in the Temple

2009-01-29T12:59:00.000-08:00

Have you developed a Potiphar's plan for 'what if' situations?

"Love come quick...Love come in a hurry" - Prince

Okay, for this blog I'm in the library after deciding to take the day off spontaneously. I need to do this more often. I'm planning to go to a few stores and window shop. Then go home and brush up some notes on a chapter. Also, Tanine extended an opportunity for me to speak to some young people this Saturday at 10:00 a.m., so I'm going to play around with a presentation that's young people-friendly. Hopefully someone can videotape this and I can youtube it. We'll see. Oh, and my sister MJ is having a soiree on February 12th at DeNiM Lounge in Bed Stuy, Brooklyn from 8 p.m. - Midnight and the theme is..."Mary J. Blige" playing all MJB classics all night. Women are strongly encouraged to come out adorned in their MJB-inspired finery.

Pray for me...being in a roomful fo MJBs (lol). Okay, now to this week's blog. I hope you enjoy. I typed it freehand without any text editor, so if they're are typos - don't point them out to me because you know I hate typos (God's still working on me).BEWARE there are THIEVES in the TEMPLE!!!

Peops,

I'd like to share some notes for a chapter that I'm revising, let me know what you think. I've decided to make the book more encompassing of the struggles of all people, in and outside of church. It's not just a book for people that are following God, it's also a roadway to those desiring to follow the path of the Way of Truth. Of course there have been many that are trying to hijack God's vision for my life with their own person agendas, but that's not going to happen.

"You don't have a heaven or hell to put me in" so, just let me work it out with God and you focus on your salvation aiight!!!

THIEVES IN THE TEMPLE

Dara, 26, knew she had a flesh problem. Sexually active since she was 13, one day she simply got tired of all the booty calls and being a lust receptacle for men that she knew didn't love and respect her.

The one night stands. Condom breaks. Pregnancy scares. Yeast infections and UTIs simply weren't worth it. Besides, she kept hearing about her being in the highest risk group for HIV/AIDS, and although she didn't personally know anyone with it, she knew a few people that did know those who contracted it and perished. This kept her up nights. Whenever she got a cold, she wondered. If she lost weight, she wondered. Yes, she'd taken an HIV test two years ago, but there had been many instances since then where she could've gotten infected.

So, her broken spirit led her to the altar of the House of Empowerment (or H.O.E., not their real name). At the H.O.E. she felt immediate acceptance from that first Sunday morning service when she arrived too weary for words. The people were very welcoming. Especially the brothers. And they were F-I-N-E.

It seemed like the perfect place to start life anew.

Her transformation was immediate. She stopped wasting her free time and hard earned money at afterwork mix-n-mingles, which were just excuses for 'hooking up' later in the week. That time was repurposed with Bible study, small group meetings and fellowship activities. Accomplished, attractive and anointed - the congregation embraced her. Her sisters in faith often praised her for that 'real talk' testimony about her prodigal years.

And the wolves were salivating, watching...

Soon Deacon Chris began inviting her to lunch after service to share church gossip. Then Minister Kevin, her pastor's protege started e-mailing her devotionals after getting her e-mail address off a mass e-mail. Before long, even the seasoned Elder Green was paying her closer attention.

All of them were single and seemingly unattached. She wasn't interested, but the attention was nice.

Then one day Sister Iris gave her "the look". You know the look that undeniably says, I'm not feeling you. Yes, it was definitely the look.

This perplexed her. She'd never had anything but respect for Iris. In fact, she counted her as one of the few friends she had in the congregations. Iris was the one who befriended her that day she answered the altar call. Something was wrong. She was confused, so she confided in Minister Kevin.

"I drink the arsenic of your hearts." - Father Below

He counseled: It's because God's favor is upon you. Some sisters can't handle your anointing. They've probably been praying for years, with little or no results. And then to watch God working in and through you makes them envious. Don't get caught up in that. Keep your distance and pray for that sister.

Sounds good, but there was an underlying unspoken truth. Minister Kevin was circling Sister Iris last year when she joined the H.O.E. flock. This was an identical scenario. Iris saw what that lying, cheating snake at the pulpit was doing and it angered her. Her look was of concern, not condemnation. But, Dara in her spiritual immaturity could not discern that. She went to the one she should've been running from for advice and counsel.

Beloved, be on guard against the wolves amongst the sheep!

Kevin misused and discarded Iris.

He started out heaping all this private affirmation on her with those thoughtful e-mails, playful texts and late-night heart-to-heart phone calls. She thought he was a kindred spirit. Sure, they went to a few movies and a couple of concerts. And he never made a move. It seemed like they were en route to Couplesville. So yes, even though she knew it wasn't the best choice, Dara surrendered to her inner voice that desired him physically. All that time they spent together cultivated their attraction and stirred those feelings she sought celibacy and God to deal with for the last 7 months.

Eventually, she gave Minister Kevin - the one that reads the healing liturgy, preaches when pastor is out of town, offers intercessory prayer and facilitates the singleness small group - some booty. And he wasn't resisting. In fact, his freaky butt came back for some more booty almost daily for 4 months. It took her curbing his appetite with talks about them "speaking to pastor" and "doing the right thing" so they could work towards "getting married" to get him to reconsider their relationship....

Then bam!!! He dumped her.

Yep, just when Keisha showed up. They repeated his same "courtship" ritual right in front of her face. She warned Keisha, but she wouldn't listen. At first she warned her out of jealousy, and then because she realized that Kevin was a wolf in sheeps clother. After Kevin was done with her, Keisha was so broken sh left the H.O.E. is disgrace from all the whispering. That no-good Kevin told everyone how she was trying to "lead him astray" to cover his creepin' on God tracks.

Minister Kevin is a temple whoremonger. In the world he would call himself a pimp or a player. In church, he calls himself "a man of God" but he's really just a fan of flesh. Like the wicked sons of Eli in 1 Samuel 2:12-16, he too sticks his three-pronged fork (penis) into the pot for the choicest pieces of meat (booty). He considers himself privileged and entitled to these "offerings," which he's deluded himself to believe are God's gift to him.

In his pride-filled heart, he thinks they are helping him do "God's work" by being his concubines as he studies and prepares for ministry. He's even found and misappropriated some scriptures to help him rationalize his self-idolatry.

Kevin is drunk on favor. His pastor has been advised of his creepin' and given him a pass.

- From the forthcoming book, "OVERCOMING the BOOTY: Breaking the Sex Hex"

Have you ever been placed in a compromising position by someone in a position of authority who you entrusted to do the right thing? Well, it's not just the men that are taking advantage in positions of power, many women do this as well.

In my own experience, I dated someone in ministry earlier in my walk of celibacy that I was very upfront about my struggling in this area. This person claimed to be so supportive at first. She also lied about being a victim of sexual assault to ingrain herself into my pysche emotionally (this is common tactic of Jezebels) But within a few weeks after me developing emotional feelings from all that 'praying and laying hands' the inappropriate advances started.

Yep, we'd be embracing and then her hands would go right for my penis. I would stand there paralyzed not knowing what to do. I felt so violated! She was a woman of God. Ordained in ministry. Trained in seminary. Mentored in pastoral care. No, she wasn't a 'babe' in Christ, this was someone that others came to for theological advice and faith-based counseling. And yet there she was massaging my penis through my slacks, grinding her crotch against me talking about, "I'm about to cum."

I identified at that moment with many that have been sexually abused. I felt violated. When I asked her to stop, she started attacking my manhood.

I told her..."The Word..." and she abruptly cut me off with, "God knows your heart..." Yes, this 'seasoned' woman of God was trying the okeydoke on me. I left afterwards. We saw each other a few more times after that and it just got worst. One day she said, "I want you to know that I respect what you're doing. But, I want you to know if you want some ("booty") you can have it. I won't lose any respect for you. I know you're a good brother." As I sat there with my mouth wide open she then grinded her crotch on my leg until she climaxed. Eeeeh!!!

Needless to say, that was the last time she's been in my presence. I know I should've stopped her during, but my 'male' ego felt like it was unmanly to do that. The enemy is crafty, especially when he uses the people of God against one another. To this day she hasn't even acknowledge that she sexually assualt and violated me. I'm sure in her mind, like many women, the thought of a man being sexually abused and misused is foreign to her. But it's not to me.

I forgive her, but I won't ever be able to trust her in my presence again. Of course she calls me from time-to-time between brothers she's compromising with to check my 'status' because I realize I'm a 'trophy' hump for her. Never thought that I'd be somebody's 'prey' but that's what she sees me as. A lot of women do when you make a decision to change and stick with it.

Brothers, don't be afraid to turn down that booty. It might be infected with HIV/AIDS. You don't know what her ulterior motives may be down the line. You could find yourself with a 21-year mortgage ("child support") or worst...a stalker.

Let's all guard ourselves against the Thieves in the Temple.

Being William

2009-01-23T09:28:00.001-08:00

BLOG ADVISORY – This blog is not suitable for those stuck in fakeness. It is intended for those desiring to growth in their sensuality maturity through real talk, about real people doing real things.

“Love empowers…lust devours” – S-Dot

What’s good peops,

For this blog, I’d like to share these clips and my commentary. I find each of them interesting and thought provoking. As I continue to go into manhood beyond maleness and the scales of lust are being replaced by visions of love, I feel led to let each of you know that you too deserve authentic love. Let’s stop living our lives like they’re stolen, and start being open to who God has chosen for each of us. I’m tired of blocking my helpmeet blessing by settling for bootlegs.

I’m an advocate for ‘keep it real media’ so with that in mind I’d like to share this video clip with you from “TrasherTV” which I love to watch online. Check them out sometimes.

( ( ( sDOTtv ) ) ) now playing TrasherTV “Cake Baker Episode 3”

A FRIENDLY REMINDER: Watch your social portfolio. Don’t just engage and interact with anyone. Hanging out with doubters or those that refuse to win can lead to failure.

( ( ( sDOTtv ) ) ) now playing Girlfriends “Trick of Truth, Season 2”

To my girlfriend Joan (y’all stop fighting to be my Joan…lol),

Hey girl, I know sometimes you will fall down. But, I want you know that I’ll do what I can, as God allows making sure you get back up again. It’s never too late to get back up. No matter where you are and what happens to you. Get back up so that God can get the glory.

Your friend William (1-4-3)

Okay, now it’s time to speak to my other friends the Smashing Hump Kings too…

Hey boyfriend (it’s sad I have to make this disclaimer put here it goes – no homo),

Tired of making booty calls? Tired of settling for some other guy’s sloppy seconds? Hooked on hooking up? Check out this clip and if you see yourself then it maybe time to reexamine the choices your making. I know that I’ve done most of these things when I was “playing myself” as a player.

( ( ( sDOTtv ) ) ) now playing “We Need Girlfriends Episode 9”

Your friend the 40-year old re-Virgin (1-4-3)

The appetizer to a sensual relationship is developing authentic communication that’s based on love and not driven by lust. So often as men and women trapped in male and femaleness, we function in our physicality by our mental whims and end up spiritually separated from God.

( ( ( sDOTtv ) ) ) now playing Summer & Seth “Virginity Pt.1”

Friends, you are worth waiting for. Don’t rush to disaster. Slow down and enjoy the process of being in love.

OPEN HEART SURGERY
Proverbs 4:23 says “Above all else, guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life.”

What issues are flowing out of your heart? Your depression is often tied to your obsession with possessions. Your anxiety rests on your anguish. Guard your heart. Desiring love, but feeding your heart lust will lead to emotional cardiac arrest. Don’t clog your relational arteries with the cholesterol of compromise.

My heart beats with expectancy for the season awaiting me…godly love.

1 John 5:4 guides me in inspiration to overcome the lust of world with faith in the love of God. In Matthew 12:34 His Lordship spoke of abundance coming from our hearts, which is why heart is abundantly filled with love for those that are unsaved.

There are principalities at work to hinder my personal growth and development. Choosng God didn’t take me off the enemy’s hit list. In fact, it just moved me up a few spots. I don’t deny that I’ll continue to have lust attacks. That’s part of the tribulation experienced by anyone within flesh. What I do is acknowledge the power of faith to overcome all adversity be triumphing for love.

Lust is untrustworthy. It is unpredictable. When it gets hard, it can’t make responsible choices. When it gets wet, it gives in to the moistness.
“From the book, “OVERCOMING the BOOTY: Breaking the Sex Hex”

I wish you a GodSexy love…S-Dot

CHANGE HAS COME

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LET US PRAY: Eternal Father God, we thank You for this day of change. Lord God, we thank You for all who have given their lives, shared their dreams and remained faithful to Your will and Word to make this day possible. O' heavenly Father, on this day we ask that You hear our prayers of intercession on behalf of our divinely appointed leader Barack Hussein Obama, his wife Michelle and their two daughters Malia and Sasha. Father in heaven dispatch Your angels from on high to surround him with a hedge of protection as he goes forth with audacious boldness to swing the sword of change cutting away the sameness of the past. Let this day inspire all who admire his tenacity, resolve and integrity to make the individual changes in their lives necessary for us to see the collective change we desire. Move the people of this great nation to become world changers that lead by example. Father God, we ask that You remove the plaque of bitterness and resentment from the hardened hearts of those that continue to backbite and speak against the leader that You, and You alone have appointed. Replace that vile discontent with a renewed heart and mind, repurposed for the betterment of humanity. Guide all of our leaders - democratic, independent and republican - local, regional, national and global in their decision making. Indwell them with the transformational power of the Holy Spirit. Let Your love shine as a beacon of hope, peace and deliverance in the Name that is above all Names our Lord and Savior, Yahushua (Isa/Jesus) Christ, amen, amen, amen!!!

Beloved, this is truly the day that the Lord has made. A day when a man of vision who was given the cross of bearing the burden of change can now stand in the crosshairs of history and proclaim, "Change has come. Change has come. Thank God Almighty, Change has come." I am proud to be an American. I am proud to see that our country which has a storied heritage of hate and divisiveness has come together to not just ask for, but rather to implement change. Each of us should rejoice on this day, but let us not lose sight of the long road ahead.

Change is a process.

It comes at a price. As we each go about this day celebrating and rejoicing, let us remember that this change requires our individual participation. Let us not be remiss in taking personal responsibility for ourselves, families, communities and nation. Change has come to inspire us to never settle for being the same again.

To my 1st family...

Brother Barack, I keep you and your family in my prayers. I cannot begin to know what the road ahead has prepared for you, but I am thankful that God has raised you up in these darkened times as a beacon of inspiration for this generation. Trying to convey my feelings with mere words doesn't begin to do justice to the sense of urgency I personally feel in my life to truly make change a mantra for not just me, but everyone around me. Thank you for leading by example. Thank you for being a man in a time of maleness. Thank you for simply showing what is possible when you hold true to your convictions and belief in God. May God's favor continue to be upon you.

Sister Michelle, I am so overjoyed that you stand beside, behind and when necessary in front of your man. You truly have become the template for me in terms of the types of woman I aspire to be worthy of to call my helpmeet. My prayers are with you, and I personally am ready to do all that God calls me to do to ensure that you and your family can continue to prosper and inspire this nation by your everyday examples. I am proud to see a woman of such regal grace, class and complexity simply rejoice in being fearfully and wonderfully made. Thank you for being the new 'Ruth' (smile) for me, may Father's favor continue to be upon you.

Sisters Malia and Sasha, thank you for sharing your parents with us. I pray that you both continue to smile, laugh and enjoy life simply being two little girls whose dad has an important job. I lift you both up in prayer each day asking God to continue to instruct you in His precepts and principles so that you grow into women of virtue. I am proud of each of you and thank you for being examples of healthy, loving children loyal to their parents. May God's favor and praises be continually in your mouths.

CHANGE HAS COME!!!

( ( ( sDOTtv ) ) ) now playing President Barack Obama “Inauguration Speech”

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When the Sheep Creep

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( ( ( sDOTtv ) ) ) now playing Various Artists “GodSexy Music”
GodSexy Music

Let us pray: Father God, hear my heart. Listen to the words unspoken by my mouth. O’ El-Loheim, Yahweh, El-Lyon the Way of Truth, search me for falsehood getting rid of all that offends You. Root out the seeds of discontentment. Uproot the unrighteous fruit of disobedience. Renew my mind with Divine wisdom. Cleanse my flesh with Blood of the Lamb. Indwell me with the Holy Spirit. Use me as a vessel of virtue in the name of Yahushua (Jesus) Christ the King, amen, amen, amen.

When the Sheep Creep

By S-Dot for The S-Dot Files

Let me ask you a question: Have you ever crept on God chasing after your own desires like Adam and Eve, and then found yourself trying to cover up your dirt with a fig leaf (Genesis 3:7-11) after you got busted for creepin’ on God? I did. It left me with a sense of unworthiness, and I eventually began to lose my personal intimacy with God, because I was trying to supplement it with lust for ‘godly’ people.

Over time, I realized that the reason I wasn’t growing in grace was because I wasn’t committed to being in His Presence with consistency. Like many people, I tried to isolate my time with God to service and ministerial activities. Outside of that…I did me. I was a carnal believer, which is akin to being a self-deceiver. I claimed an inheritance that I wasn’t willing to sacrifice to posses rightfully by living righteously.

A REBUKE WITH LOVE: Don’t just pray to God, obey God. Stop running your mouth about what you want and desire, and start disciplining yourself to prepare to be worthy to posses what He has ordained for you. It’s time to grow up in your faith, so that God will show up in your circumstances. You won’t be promoted to a covenant with a daughter or so of God until you’re devoted to her Father with obedience to His commands and ways. So, start walking with audacious boldness in faithfulness to the Way of Truth.

Sometimes, we’re so focused on the ‘hookup’, that we forget to ‘look up’ to God for guidance which leads us astray from His will and purpose. Until you repent you won’t be content with the choices that you’ve made apart from God. Until I started walking and talking with intentionality in my learning, Father did not begin to elevate me in my opportunities to teach the Way of Truth to others. I had to learn to follow Christ’s example of obedience before I could lead. I had to sharpen my pencil, before I could write the plan that He placed in my heart and mind. I had to discipline myself by diligently studying, before I could stand before a gathering of disciples of the Way of Truth equipping and empowering others in and beyond the Beloved Community. I had to develop my gifts, not focus on the glimpses that He provided. Why? The glimpses were to merely motivate me, not to distract and stagnate me. Sometimes, it’s just as simple as coming to and responding to the self-realization that we’ve taken our eyes off the prize (God) that gets us refocused.

REAL TALK: A dreamer must become a visionary to bring purpose into practice.

Here’s a question that I received from a brother in Christ that’s in distress because he’s struggling between obeying the “process” of waiting on God, and he’s praying for the strength to honor his woman from God.

Q: What’s good bruh? Dude I hope you can help a brother out. I’m stressed out these days. Let me start off by saying, I fully recognize and acknowledge that I have a serious lust problem. I’ve recently been tapped by leadership to serve on the deacon board, and this has increased my visibility in the congregation considerably. Now since there aren’t many brothers in church that are committed enough to serve, those of us that do, are kind of looked at as the “chosen ones” in church. This of course makes it extremely difficult to just focus on serving and remaining focused. Those that work are blessed with perks. LOL Every time I turn around some sister says, “God gave me a revelation…” and it’s usually about us dating or getting better acquainted.

The women in church are so fine! Nah, bruh maybe you didn’t hear me…the women in church are F-I-N-E!!! And I’m not blind. Anyway, I started seeing this anointed young lady awhile back that directs and sings in the choir, and everything was going fine, at first. She has a beautiful voice, and when I see her ministering in service…I get so excited just watching her praise God. I know that sounds wrong, but there’s something about a fine woman worshipping that’s so sexy to me.

Now, we’ve really tried to live right, but brother it’s been hard. She’s so F-I-N-E, and sometimes that body of hers just be calling me like that crack did to Pookie in “New Jack City.” LOL

For real! We’ve had some near misses and a few slips... Okay…we’ve slept together three times in the last month, but we didn’t get much sleep. I’m not even going to lie. It was good too! Each time we prayed afterward, and said it wouldn’t happen again, but it did. And I wasn’t mad either. The first time was so beautiful. The second time we were intimate, was right after I drove her home from a revival service, where she ministered. I know that sounds really bad… But bruh, when I see that anointing fall on her… I want to fall on her. I know that’s wrong, but…I am absolutely head over heals for this woman. We’ve been seriously talking about marriage, she’s helped me get my head right too. Yep, I’m sprung.

But, we’ve gotten off track. Now, we don’t talk the way we use to lately. Instead, we spend a lot of time avoiding talking about ‘doing it’. I guess we’ve started focusing so much on getting married we failed to realize, we’re still not married.

Anyway, lately she’s been avoiding me. I really miss our open talks as friends. I’ve tried to talk to her a few times, but she wouldn’t reveal what was really wrong at first. Then the other day after choir practice she told me that she can’t keep “doing this,” because it’s making her feel like a hypocrite standing in front of the congregation knowing she’s not living right. I agreed 100% and told her I feel that way too. It was the first time in weeks that I saw a smile return to her beautiful face.

In fact, I can barely look pastor in the eyes. I sure he discerns something is wrong. He’s dropped some not so subtle hints, but I assured him things were fine. I hate lying to his face. I feel like such a wolf among the sheep.

Without any doubt whatsoever, I love her. Not just romantically, I love her as a woman of God. I really want to work on repairing the damage we’ve done to our relationship. She’s such a wonderful, wise woman. I feel so ashamed, because everyone always talks about how there’s such an anointing on her ministry, and here I am consciously leading her into temptation.

Do you think that we can get back on track and get married, or should I just accept that I messed up, and leave her alone? Help brother… - The Wolf

A: First of all, in the Spirit of Truth, I rebuke you embracing the title “The Wolf.” I bind the foul imagination that conjured up such a deception in Jesus Christ’s Holy Name. Amen, amen, amen!

BROTHER TO BROTHER: I’ve also seen and experienced the same ‘view from the pew’ and I know how ‘GodSexy’ that anointing can be. I know it all too well. In fact, I wrote a book about it…GodSexy (stay tuned…it’s a page turner). A person that loves God, even if they’re struggling has such a ‘soul glow’ to them that’s very attractive. That anointing gives them a radiance of righteousness and you’ll find yourself drawn to that Divine reflection in their presence. It draws you in like bugs to those fluorescent lamps at a backyard BBQ. You know that you shouldn’t look into the light, but it’s just so beautiful, soothing and comforting and then…zap! You’re dead.

Bruh, don’t go into the light. Turn, don’t burn. Repent.

First of all bruh, it’s time to be real with yourself. Are you her Boaz? If not, stop blocking that sister’s opportunity to receive her true Boaz. As Ludacris says, “Move…Get out the way!” Don’t be a ‘blessing blocker’ because you’re too selfish to allow God’s “process” to take place. Let her continue to glean in the fields with faithfulness to the Way of Truth, so that Father can bring her into a season of wholeness (completion) where she can reap the harvest of her ordained kinsman-redeemer.

Before you answer: let’s reflect on the prophetic words of caution from the prophet Micah: “They covet fields and seize them, and houses and take them away; they oppress and crush a man and his house, a man and his inheritance (Micah 2:2 Amp).” Don’t covet, seize, take and crush the hopes of her Boaz. If you know that she’s not your covenant helpmeet, release her. And, don’t be a punk that dismisses her because of your moral failure, running away from accountability. Father will not honor that cowardice. Man up!

Now let’s look at the example of David after he was anointed by Samuel to be king: he still wasn’t ready to step into the king’s shoes. He knew he had to submit to the “process” of transformation in order to be a rightful possessor of the anointing on his life. If David would’ve tried to become king overnight just because he was anointed, he would’ve met with disastrous results. Because, although he was “called,” Father knew he wasn’t ready to be “sent.” Like you and I, David had to spend some time in the “wilderness” in order for the impurities in his character to be refined. He had to do the work, and wait on God to move in his individual situation. Not get so caught up in his destination that he lost sight of the journey necessary to arrive there.

Remember, the period between your “calling” and your “coming” into purpose is necessary. Unfortunately, too many people today want to “cum” (not “come” that’s not a typo) whenever their flesh “calls” rather than honor and respect the significance of how the season of singleness prepares us for the covenant of ‘yoked life’ (marriage). If you can’t be faithful to God, you definitely can’t be faithful to a child of God. Why would you respect the child, when you refuse to honor the Father?

Brother, you’re trying to forego your “wilderness,” experience by claiming a “glimpse” as a “gift” and you’re out of alignment with Father God’s will. I think you need to pull over and prayerfully ask Him for directions to get back on track.

Pastor Paul E. Sheppard, Jr. of Abundant Life Christian Center on his “Enduring Truth” program once pointed out in one of his teachings entitled, “Lessons from the Pasture: Part 3” that your wilderness helps you develop in three essential areas: “1) Wisdom, 2) Stature, 3) Favor with God and men.”

BOLD POINT: If you don’t submit to the “process” you won’t be able to commit to the covenant that God has prepared specifically for you, period.

If you plant lust, you’ll harvest distrust.

REAL TALK: You’re compromise is creepin’ on God bruh, and that’s not cool.

“Just because she’s fine doesn’t mean she’s mine.” That’s something I repeat to myself whenever I see an attractive, anointed woman of God these days.

In being real with myself, I had to implement a “no dating” policy at my church home. Oh, and please don’t get it confused either…the women in my church are F-I-N-E too. And that was the problem in itself. I simply could not focus on handling my Father’s business while stealing side glances at His beautiful daughters of divinity. They’re so ‘GodSexy’. It was such a problem for me that I had to cut back on participating in certain ministries since I recognized I was having serious challenges. The “20/30 something” ministry was such a struggle that I stopped going altogether. The “Singles” ministry… Not for this brother. The women there had that ‘Ruth’ complex and their Boaz radar was always on. It was so distracting hearing good godly women en route to becoming great women of God express their heart longing desires to find a brother that wanted to ‘love them long, long time’ the godly way.

So, I laced up my Potiphar’s (Nike’s) and ran like Joseph.

Earlier in my walk, I dated a divinely anointed minister. She (let's call her .25) was such a breath of fresh air in comparison to the spiritual divas and biblical infants I dated prior. We could discuss theology into the wee hours of the morning. She loved romantic-comedies like me. 2wo5ive had a deeply intimate relationship with Father. And she was F-I-N-E. Not cute, F-I-N-E, and she got finer each time I saw her.

From the moment we began dating, I knew there were going to be flesh challenges. And there were. We prayed about them. And still our flesh was on fire. Why? Because Father was calling me to man up, and take responsibility for my flesh problem. Until then, it was easy to deal with my flesh when it came to blatantly carnal women. I simply shut them down.

But this was a woman that had that “soul glow,” and I was stuck and stuttering. She was also enamored with my anointing as a man of God, making the challenge even greater. She would touch me affectionately and I won’t even pretend that I tried to stop her. In fact, I touched her back a lot.

Yep, we found ourselves in GodSexy.

Our feelings left us too tongue tied to speak in tongues. Our desires had us so focused on the “gift,” that we lost sight of the “process.” So, Father shut our relationship down abruptly. I was devastated and embarrassed. Nearly everyone that saw us together assumed we’d be getting married. But, we allowed the enemy to creep in. That enemy wasn’t Satan…that enemy was our unwillingness to address our flesh problem with God. So, I had to stop shamming, and be real with God. I wasn’t ready to be the blessing that I wanted to see. I had to do some serious work.

Let’s go back to Pastor Paul E. Sheppard, Jr. again to glean some more brotherly insight: “Until age 30, Jesus did no mighty work…because His time had not yet come. Jesus spent 30 years preparing for a 3 year ministry. And some of us don’t want to spend 3 years preparing for a 30 year career…The movements of God in your life don’t require you to be in a hurry. He knows what He’s up to in your life. God can afford to take His time with you. When God is creating a masterpiece He does nothing suddenly. When God is doing a deep work in your life, you’ve got to give Him time to work it out.”

BOLD POINT: If you want to go to the next-level of faithfulness in God, you’ve got to confront and overcome your giant in the wilderness of tribulation.

To paraphrase and remix the departed Johnnie Cochran: “To be legit, you must submit, and commit.” Until you allow God to feed you His manna, you’ll continue to be enslaved to your temporal yearnings and desires. You have to renew your mind by fasting with a reliance on the Source of all resources worth having. God is instructing you in faithfulness by requiring that you wait for His permission to go forth and posses what you desire in His time, not yours.

REAL TALK: The reason so many people are HIV-positive is because they’re GOD-negative.

Don’t get stuck in nonsense (S.I.N.) and allow sin to win. One of the ways that the enemy of the Way of Truth operates is by bringing about division to those that are called to serve in ministry for the Kingdom. If the enemy can get you to take on the posture of an accuser by falsely labeling her as a ‘Jezebel’ that’s trying to lead you astray, this will serve a two-prong objective: to get you to deny the Way of Truth and to make her embittered by undermining her reputation. Don’t fall for it, because you can’t control your flesh. I’ve dated a few real ‘Jezebels’, and trust me you’ll know the difference. There are enough legitimate ‘Jezebels’ out there, so don’t accuse one that is merely struggling with their flesh, just like you. Man up!

Don’t conceal your indiscretion and allow that shame to undermine the ministry that Father has called each of you. Seek God with an open heart, and ears listening for His words of wisdom. Be thankful you both have the blessing of covering in your shepherd. Use that vehicle to drive you to restoration. I strongly encourage you and your young lady to consider going before your servant-leader (pastor) to confess your indiscretion, allowing him to counsel you towards getting wholly back on track. Brother, if your relationship is ordained by God to become the blessing of marriage, the seeds you sow into that fertile ground right now will determine the harvest you reap years later. Set a precedent for truth. It’s time to draw a line in the sand, and not double back to cross it.

Trying to suffer in silence, without accountability, will continue to be a stronghold for the enemy to trip you up. It will make you focus on your inward shortcomings attacking one another, rather than turning to God for strength and deliverance.

It’s encouraging to see that you know that she is a woman of value and you want to honor that with more than your lips. That’s important and necessary to establish an atmosphere of affirmation in your relationship. There’s nothing more attractive than accountability. Anyone can “do them,” but only a truly mature person can take responsibility for their shortcomings. If you don’t, then it shouldn’t surprise you when she “dry snitches” about her backsliding with you in a tearful testimonial in front of the whole congregation. So, man up!

It’s time to demonstrate that love you profess for her. It’s easy to say you love someone when you’re enamored with their good, godly qualities. The true test of that love comes when tribulation comes upon you, and you’re not just enraptured by attraction, which becomes a distraction en route to fulfilling God’s purpose. If you love her, prove it. Man up!

John 3:16 says: “God so loved the world that He gave…” What are you willing to give as a demonstration of this love you profess?

Pick up your cross. Acknowledge what has been lost. Allow the Comforter to guide you to restoration. Let’s look to the prophetic account of Yahweh’s will in Ezekiel 22:30 NIV “I looked for a man among them who would build up the wall and stand before Me in the gap on behalf of the land so I would not have to destroy it, but I found none.” Brother, are you prepared to “stand in the gap” for your relationship before God?

If you truly desire to be her someday priest, prophet and king (husband), you have to start by showing her that you are man, not just of his word, but of the Word of God. Yes, you’ve fallen short in your moral compromise (S.I.N.), but you can and should demonstrate fortitude by enduring through this challenge to your relationship. You must show her that she can trust you with her future, by a willingness to take responsibility for your past indiscretions being accountable in the present circumstance of adversity to responsive leadership.

I SAY TO BOTH OF YOU: Don’t forfeit your future because of a moral failure. I strongly encourage you to prayerfully seek out faith-based couples counseling, separately and together. Each of you has been entrusted with the responsibilities of servant-leadership, and it’s essential that you have accountability protocols in place to keep you from stumbling. Your ministries are being closely watched by others, and if you don’t show true humility right now, you will set a precedent for denial and deception. That will become your cross to bear in your walk and the enemy of the Way of Truth will use every opportunity to undermine your faith with challenges in this area. Your life’s ministry will be serving as a cautionary sign to others by your downward living in compromise.

It is time for you both to sacrificially invest in your relationship by repentance.

If you truly believe in your heart that she is the woman that God has prepared exclusively for you, then you’re going to have to fight for her. You’re going to have to show Father your repentance for defiling His daughter. Don’t let the enemy make you a coward by running away from responsibility. Show her that you are a man of integrity. This is the hour to man up and live right, to stand up in Christ and rise to claim your prize of a blessed life. You must reestablish an environment of holiness in your relationship by true repentance. This is the time to do it, not tomorrow. Don’t wait another day. Go to her and tell her that you apologize to her as a man of God and then take your repentance before Father God together in oneness. Don’t do it to gain leverage with her, do it because that’s what God deserves from you since you’ve defiled His daughter and yourself with compromise. Do it now.

Congratulations, God’s hand is upon you so heavy its weighing down your conscious. I know the weight of His presence maybe intimidating, but just imagine life without God… Exactly. Rejoice in the Lord! God chastens those He loves.

NOW IT’S TIME TO STUDY YOUR BLESSINGS…Brother, trust in the Lord it’s time to sharpen your sword. Over the next se7en days meditate and pray on these words of wisdom until they penetrate your weak flesh conforming it to a spirit willing to honor the Way of Truth by practicing holiness as a lifestyle:

1. “I made a covenant with my eyes not to look lustfully at a girl. (Job 3:31 NIV – You’re just a window shopper)”
2. “For everything in the world—the cravings of sinful man, the lust of his eyes and the boasting of what he has and does—comes not from the Father but from the world. (1 John 2:16 NIV – All that “blings” isn’t from the King).”
3. “Do not lust in your heart after her beauty or let her captivate you with her eyes, for the prostitute reduces you to a loaf of bread, and the adulteress preys upon your very life. Proverbs 6:25-26 NIV – looks can be deceiving and expensive).”
4. “The LORD rewards every man for his righteousness and faithfulness. The LORD delivered you into my hands today, but I would not lay a hand on the LORD's anointed. (1 Samuel 26:23 NIV – if you try it, you buy it).”
5. “Therefore, brethren, be even more diligent to make your call and election sure, for if you do these things you will never stumble (2 Peter 2:10 – Man up!).”
6. “Live happily with the woman you love through all the meaningless days of life that God has given you under the sun. The wife God gives you is your reward for all your earthly toil.” (Ecclesiastes 9:9 NLT – life with a wife-piece)
7. “But if you fail to do this, you will be sinning against the LORD; and you may be sure that your sin will find you out.” (Numbers 32:23 NIV)

In service to the Christ the King of kings,

S-Dot
The S-Dot Files

ABOUT S-DOT: Saved to serve, he is a communicator for Christ. Through writing and speaking, he has answered his calling to be used as a motivator of the masses. His practical life lessons empower everyday hearers to seek the change they desire by going forth with audacious boldness living an intentional blessed life.

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Apparently, these boots will make me the "coolest dad in the entire world ever!" Hmmm...sounds like I'm being played (smile).

Peops,

For this blog, I wanted to share this word from my brother in Christ, Rev Will Lee. This brother was instrumental in bringing me to my current church home at EBC. He was the intercessor that prayed for me that day in December 2004 when I stumbled into the sanctuary grief-stricken over the brokenness that imparted onto someone that use to sing in EBC’s choir. I came to apologize, and God introduced me to Rev. Lee.

I am eternally grateful that he let me weep and wail all over his lapel and hasn’t made of fun of me about it since (lol). Good look Rev Lee.

It’s bullet proof B.K. love! Brooklyn Stand Up!!!

( ( ( sDOTcast ) ) ) now playing Rev Will Lee “His Momma & His Disciple!” (Ai the Ministry) – Jersey City, NJ – John 17:41

Ai the Ministry
Rev. Will Lee, Senior Pastor
701 Route 440 South
Jersey City NJ 07305
Phone: 201.414.2416
E: wlee.cmo@gmail.com

If you or someone you know in New Jersey is seeking a church home, I highly recommend Ai the Ministry. This planted congregation of EBC is growing and remains uniquely connected to the community as a preaching and teaching fellowship that speaks with authenticity.

Click by www.YoungDreamChasers.com to check out the one-on-one exclusive interview with CH20 for the first book, “OVERCOMING the BOOTY: Breaking the Sex Hex” it’s real talk, for real people about real things.

S-Dot
The S-Dot Files

Don't Get It Twisted

2008-12-06T15:29:00.000-08:00

THIS IS A REPOSTING FROM MYSPACE

First of all, I want to congratulate my sister in Christ, Patricia Tyson, a wonderfully anointed composer who recently completed this inspiring song, "Change We Can Believe In" inspired by our new President-Elect, Barack Obama. Now, I've been asking Pat to write me a ministry theme song with "change" as central theme for over a year and to hear this, I'm now making it our official anthem. I'm glad that she wrote this awesome song, enjoy!

( ( ( sDOTtv ) ) ) now playing King College Prep “Change We Can Believe In”

The Inauguration Song by Patricia Tyson

Recently, I've come across a few situations which have led me to realize that some people are unclear about my faith, because I don't shout J-E-S-U-S after every sentence, and they don't hear me pretending to be a 'holier-than-thou' highroller.

Well, deal with it.

I've been a disciple of Christ for 10 years, and the 1st 5 or 6 were spent mired in carnality, like many folks that classify themselves as "Christians." That classification sadly has become something of a misnomer (unsuitable name or descriptor) for those that proclaim Christ as their personal Lord and Savior. I'm embarrassed oftentimes when I hear of the atrocities that people continue to suffer at the hands of Christians (myself included in there too).

We are doing such a sucky (can't think of a real word, so deal with it) job of sharing the saving message of hope, peace and deliverance with the lost, least and last on the lowest rungs of society. Our preoccupation with 'spiritual etiquette' is literary making us less relevant and responsive to people simply begging to know God.

There are times when I'm so heavenly minded that I'm no earthy good... Now, don't make me start pointing at a few you (so, I'll expects some 'amens' below).

This is why I have personally stopped beating people over the head with just the Bible and not showing its practical, livable application to their everyday lives. Yes, oftentimes my blogs present Scripture as allegories to illustrate a contemporary point. Some of your legalistic pharisees have reached out and then once I've dealt with you, deleted yourself because you thought you could tell me how-to man the post that God has assigned me to. This is my walk with God, not yours. Where were you when...

True, there have been moments when some of the content might have been somewhat controversial and in hindsight, even inappropriate.

Which is why I'm so glad, YOU DON'T HAVE A HEAVEN OR HELL TO PUT ME IN. Get over it! That's God's decision, not yours. So, if you've clicked by 'myspace' notice that 'my' with the sole purpose of trying to pillage through my blogs and comments for fodder for your little posts - have a great time. You are really advancing the Kingdom by that. Yes, God is so glorified by your spending your time unproductively mining my blogs for your ramblings.

Let me make a suggestion to you...DO SOMETHING!

DO ANYTHING. But in God's Name, please establish a personal relationship with God beyond all that 'intellectual faith' that you're hiding behind. I've been there and it's a lonely place. When you've matured in your walk, you'll notice that Christ met the people wherever they were in life. But He remained holy not in spite of, but because of His circumstances. He's a Light Bearer in a darken world. I follow Christ. Therefore, I meet the people wherever they are, and I don't lead them to purchase CDs, DVDs to McFaith messages that are watered-down garbage, I point them to the Cross where they should kneel in repentance. Just like I did.

Which is why the 1st chapter of the book is FREE. That's right FREE. Why? Because as the Lord has freely given, so too shall I give. It alllows those with discerning minds to test the fruit of my lips against the revealed character of the will and Word of God, before purchasing the whole book. That's not just good marketing, that's responsible stewardship.

I can't save anyone. Any person that tries to deify me, I delete them from my friends or deal with them accordingly, period. But, don't act like you're on myspace as the 'super apostle' to police the social media spectrum when you're peddling your refrieded sermons that you just insert the latest controversy or trend into the title; repackaged conferences where people become your 'ministry partners' but don't ever receive anything of any tangible value; and promoting your 'brand name' (after you nonetheless) ministry that hasn't been relevant since you came into church crying...way back when.

So, what led me to make this statement you might ask? Well, I came across a brother's blog that asked, "What Do You Stand For?" and it got me to thinking. Now, I believe that man of God was well-meaning in posing this question, so my issue was not to take offense by his words. On the contrary, it led me to make the following reply to his blog:

"When I began in myspace, I was very sanctuary-minded in my profile. It drew a lot saints at first, but they usually only wanted to gossip, backbite and speak against their leadership. This was disheartening, as I moved beyond my infancy, I opened up my virtual sanctuary to the unsaved and seeking, after 1st outlining a very specific "friends" policy. This has not been 100% effective, but it puts forth my values as a man of God, first and foremost. Folks often come with their own agendas, oftentimes it's a 'Sunday widow' seeking a brother that's saved and loves God, who she's willing to try to holla at. These are my sisters in Christ, and I call them "sis" without crossing that line. Their virtual crushes from their desktops are their issues, not mines. I cant pretend that a woman walking in her divine purpose hasn't ever been attractive to me. She's supposed to. But, I'm here for God. I believe that we are not called to erect towers where we simply babble about spiritual matters while the unrepentant wallow in filth. We are called to go out and invite them to the Banquet. So, with that said, I began to reevaluate my methodology, not my theology. I recognized that just as Christ met the prostitute, cheat and drunkard where they are, so too as a follower in the Way of Truth, that is the Father, Son & Holy Spirit, must I. I do not esteem myself above the Lord, I follow Him. So, with that said, simply be open to the Holy Spirit, remain where God places you and exude the example of Christ's love to all that come seeking the Kingdom. Point them lovingly to repentance, and remember we cannot judge the unsaved by the standards of the righteous their ears and eyes do not see truth. That's what we're called to reflect by being here." - Reply to blog, "What Do You Stand For?"

So, I ask the same question that my brother in Christ asked of me, "What Do You Stand For?"

Oh, and some of you folks have been in churches for years and it's a crying shame that you still don't know how to pray for people. Grow up already, so that God can show up in your circumstances. For those of you newer in your walk, or just simply uncertain about prayer (I've been there too, that's why I started writing them out and them God couldn't get me to shut up) here's somethng from one of the Bible study groups I facilitates handouts that I wrote:

Prayer Etiquette 101

People with demons have feelings too. Trying to sweep clean a house that the other person doesn’t think is dirty is useless. They’ll only let it get even dirty again. In fact, it most likely will get even dirtier. True deliverance only comes after a person recognizes their need for healing from a heritage of hurtfulness. That’s why it’s insensitive to just grab people’s hands and start yelling, “Come out demon” all in public.

The proper method, if possible, is to take them aside and ask to pray for them. Give them an opportunity to open their heart to the Gospel.

Once they’re open to prayer, ask if there’s anything they would like to specifically pray about. Listen discerningly.

Fill your mind with the Holy Spirit and pray something like this, “I pray for _________, that they…(they’re specified issue or concern addressed first and foremost to bring them into agreement) and I speak to the ________ (however the demon is manifested in their life, it’s attributes – lust, sickness, slothfulness, etc) and take authority in the Name of Jesus. I command ___________ (affliction) to leave and not return, right now in the Name of Jesus.”

A Father's Love

2008-12-05T14:51:00.000-08:00

Beloved ones,

I wanted to share these photos that I've gathered of God's anointed leader for our nation, Barack Obama with his daughters. His fortitude as a man of principle that stands on the integrity of his words, rather than hiding behind speechwriters continually inspires me to reach for my own milestones in life.

Recently, I began spearheading the marketing for the Real Dads Network (www.realdadsnetwork.com) which is holding it's 2nd annual 'Daddy Daughter Dance' on February 7th (stay tuned for details).

I love when my daughter tells me our little "secrets"

Being a dad gives you an excuse to be silly...

Even when you're tired they give you energy

To all of the Elijahs of this generation, thank you for standing in the gap for this called and sent generation. None of us are perfect, but we are committed to being perfected and that's what fatherhood is about.